"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Liking a girl, but not wanting to have sex with her?

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Well typically this is true. But that doesn't mean she will wait for you forever. If you don't make a move on a chick soon enough, eventually you'll just end up getting friendzoned the same way a nice guy does. Like I said, she will eventually forget about you and move onto some other guy who WILL make a move.
Doesn't matter.

I've had situations where I was friends with a woman for years before sleeping with her. I feel no urgency with women. I will make a move when I feel like it.. not when she wants me too. And if that makes her lose interest then she was never that interested. Its really that simple.

When you work around what women want you paint yourself as the lower value person. The higher value person has no urgency to do anything. The urgency is for the lower value person.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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Doesn't matter.

I've had situations where I was friends with a woman for years before sleeping with her. I feel no urgency with women. I will make a move when I feel like it.. not when she wants me too. And if that makes her lose interest then she was never that interested. Its really that simple.

When you work around what women want you paint yourself as the lower value person. The higher value person has no urgency to do anything. The urgency is for the lower value person.
Then you never really were 'friends' with her, meaning she never fully knew you. Or you changed in an extraordinary way very rapidly to which you essentially became a whole new person.

A woman's interest/attraction towards you is not stagnant, it can definitely change.
 

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You two made some good points. I agree with Urbanyst that it's probably better to not feel a sense of urgency with a woman. If the spark is real then it will be there two weeks later. And if it's gone then it was just chemicals. And if you can get one hot girl then you can get another.

But ImTheDouble is right about the friend zone. But at the same time I am not friends with this young woman. Like the next day that I saw her we didn't talk or make any sort of contact. So there really isn't a way for me to get friendzoned because there is enough distance and that actually works to my advantage.

What's funny is that since all of this I've started dating two women. It's like I don't want to make this girl out to be too big of a deal or something.
 

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This is weird.

I can tell that she likes me too. Just from the way that she acted on the phone when we argued it was like I was her boyfriend. Perhaps me ignoring her got her more attracted to me.

Is this what they mean by when you aren't looking for a relationship that it finds you? Or maybe it's just a ****ed up case of our childhood wounds matching perfectly. And usually in those situations you don't want to ****.

Either way it's confusing and frustrating as hell. I'm not sure if I should stay away or just go towards it.
I can't tell if this is true or not.

If it is, by the time you 'figure it out' the girl is already married and pregnant with no more room for any more guy friends in her life.
 

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I can't tell if this is true or not.

If it is, by the time you 'figure it out' the girl is already married and pregnant with no more room for any more guy friends in her life.
Fvck you. You are a condescending arsehole.
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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