"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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like talking to a wall

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so last nite i went on my first like real date where i didnt know the girl. we went out to dinner and saw house of wax. it was ok i guess except it was impossible to hold a conversation with her. even though im new to the whole dating thing,she just wouldnt reciprocate. it was perfect too,shes an exchange student from germany so i asked her questions about germany and misc. other **** and i got mostly 1 word answers. ive heard from friends that its hard to talk to her so im not worried about it. only thing is im sposed to be going to prom with her and i wanna think of ways to open her up and be like a normal human being and not like a brick wall. anyway,just felt id share that. the whole night turned kinda awkward...specialy at the end..i defintely need some work,but thatll come with time.

tips for the future?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Show her that you're different. That you're worth talking to.

Her friends are giving you ****, this is nothing more than a test.

Kino will open her up.
 
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Just remember, some girls will never break out of their shell no matter how hard you try. Usually its a good idea to find someone that is already open.
 
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being from another country and all..... could it be that she can't speak your language........

just a thought
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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dinner and a movie? LAME
 
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Lol... bro... her english aint up to par. Talk slower, anunciate, and give her TIME to think about answers. Ive taken a few exchange students out - you have to work around language.
 
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Originally posted by Julian
dinner and a movie? LAME
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oh trust me,i know..i couldnt think of anything else to do around here.really theres not much to do..we usualy end up just having parties,people dont really go out on dates here.


she speaks english probly better than i do haha.

as for giving her time to think of answer, she'd answer the questions just as fast as i was saying them. so i really dont think i did anything wrong..i wasnt exactly a pimp,but whatever

oh and by friends i mean both male and female
 
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