"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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light on or off during sex?

light on or off during sex?

  • light on

    Votes: 16 47.1%
  • light off

    Votes: 7 20.6%
  • doesn't matter

    Votes: 11 32.4%

  • Total voters
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LoneWolf

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do you guys keep the light on or off when you have sex?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Zodiac

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I tend to go with how the lighting is when I get to that point so I selected the choice of "doesn't matter"
 

backbreaker

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i can't **** with the lights on. in fact i can't do very much with the lights on. i work in the dark quite often. i'm o;dd like that.
 

d!ckmojo

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lights off

w/ candles lit

or a lava lamp

w/ some theivery corp. tunez \\ u gotta set the mood dudes!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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comic_relief

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I like to see myself with the lights on while I am doing it. Nothing turns on my girls than being able to see us in the mirror :rock:

- comic_relief
 

Strelok

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It depends on the girl cause many are shy,and again it depends on the girl cause if she has a fat ass or I don't like some particular of her body I would rather not see it directly.

I fail to see how some guys can keep an erection having sex with an ugly girl with day light.
 

LoneWolf

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i have a dim lamp that i use. sets a nice vibe between us too. i dont think id like to have sex with lights on. though i've done it during the day before.
 

Tortendieb

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Funny it never occurred to me. I mean light is on as we come into the room, then while I'm at it I usually forget to turn it off. If I'm lucky I remember to close the door ;)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Scars

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Off. That way I don't have to worry about it later. I can just pull out then immediately roll and over and fall asleep. :)

-Scars
 

joverby

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Doesn't matter, I personally kind of like dim-light for a better effect.

But most chicks I am with seem to be all insecure and want the lights off.

"I fail to see how some guys can keep an erection having sex with an ugly girl with day light. "

I think you're assuming that all dudes bang ugly chicks? Because that's not the case if so. Why would you **** one peroid is the better question.
 

Strelok

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Diaforetikos said:
Who the hell is having sex with ugly chicks??
joverby said:
"I fail to see how some guys can keep an erection having sex with an ugly girl with day light. "

I think you're assuming that all dudes bang ugly chicks? Because that's not the case if so. Why would you **** one peroid is the better question.
According to many american users of this forum the average american girl is fat, according to those same users if you're not a so called "alpha" you dont have the first share therefore you're having sex with average girls that as previously said are fat.

However I do realize this is the internet where every guy is 6'2 tall muscular millionaire, so its believable that no one here is having sex with ugly girls.
In fact I would dare to say that ugly girls are an invention of media just like the poor people.
/sarcasm mode off
 

joverby

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Strelok said:
According to many american users of this forum the average american girl is fat, according to those same users if you're not a so called "alpha" you dont have the first share therefore you're having sex with average girls that as previously said are fat.

However I do realize this is the internet where every guy is 6'2 tall muscular millionaire, so its believable that no one here is having sex with ugly girls.
In fact I would dare to say that ugly girls are an invention of media just like the poor people.
/sarcasm mode off
What are you even talking about?

So let's get this straight you are making an opinion off of what you read from(jaded) people here and generalizing not only every American female but every dude on here, saying it's impossible for them to be good looking / attract good looking girls.

Okay, so we have two different generalizations going on and some black&white thinking saying it has to be one extreme or the other. That's why there is the HB(X) scale. Some girls are 7's some are 5's some are 9's etc.

Quit generalizing and the black and white thinking. It's not good. I happen to NOT have sex with ugly girls, sorry if you do, but not everyone does.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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CuriousGirl

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Dim, warm lighting. It's just sexy. Lights off is good for pushing the boundaries of your partner though, if you want to try something they are unsure about I would recommend lights off.
 

PDubb75

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I usually have the lights off. If I have music on, the lights from my stereo give off just enough to set the mood right.
 

Strelok

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joverby said:
What are you even talking about?

So let's get this straight you are making an opinion off of what you read from(jaded) people here and generalizing not only every American female but every dude on here, saying it's impossible for them to be good looking / attract good looking girls.

Okay, so we have two different generalizations going on and some black&white thinking saying it has to be one extreme or the other. That's why there is the HB(X) scale. Some girls are 7's some are 5's some are 9's etc.

Quit generalizing and the black and white thinking. It's not good. I happen to NOT have sex with ugly girls, sorry if you do, but not everyone does.
Do you read what you quote usually?
You were too busy thinking what to answer that you simply forgot the last most important line of that post SARCASM MODE OFF
Hope you got it this time..
 

joverby

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Strelok said:
Do you read what you quote usually?
You were too busy thinking what to answer that you simply forgot the last most important line of that post SARCASM MODE OFF
Hope you got it this time..
Okay? Not really sure what the point of your post was then.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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