Cry For Love
Senior Don Juan
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Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Do you have a link the the iron addicts one?Quagmire911 said:I have seen that chart before. It isn't accurate. My deadlift, according to that chart, is nearly advanced and I have been training for just over a year.
There is an elitefts one I saw on Ironaddicts that was accurate, although it was perhaps a little extreme. Because those guys are all elite they think that anyone can bench 500+ given time. Somewhere inbetween the elitefts one and the Exrx one is probably accurate for the average gym goer.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
yes, its 1 RM based. but remember that this is based on FULL ROMMaxtro said:Is that chart based on 1-rep max weight or something like that?
Edit:
The have a one rep max calculator http://exrx.net/Calculators/OneRepMax.html
I'm below un-trained in everything yet I've been working out since Jan, does that make any sense?
Sorry, parallel squats don't mean **** and are bad for your knees.Flyer said:yes, its 1 RM based. but remember that this is based on FULL ROM
Press - Intermediate
Bench - Intermediate
Squat (parallel) - Elite
Squat (full) - Advanced
Deadlift - Intermediate
Clean - Intermediate
Exactly. Only way to do them is ass-to-grass.MrS said:Sorry, parallel squats don't mean **** and are bad for your knees.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.