Cry For Love
Senior Don Juan
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Do you have a link the the iron addicts one?Quagmire911 said:I have seen that chart before. It isn't accurate. My deadlift, according to that chart, is nearly advanced and I have been training for just over a year.
There is an elitefts one I saw on Ironaddicts that was accurate, although it was perhaps a little extreme. Because those guys are all elite they think that anyone can bench 500+ given time. Somewhere inbetween the elitefts one and the Exrx one is probably accurate for the average gym goer.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
yes, its 1 RM based. but remember that this is based on FULL ROMMaxtro said:Is that chart based on 1-rep max weight or something like that?
Edit:
The have a one rep max calculator http://exrx.net/Calculators/OneRepMax.html
I'm below un-trained in everything yet I've been working out since Jan, does that make any sense?
Sorry, parallel squats don't mean **** and are bad for your knees.Flyer said:yes, its 1 RM based. but remember that this is based on FULL ROM
Press - Intermediate
Bench - Intermediate
Squat (parallel) - Elite
Squat (full) - Advanced
Deadlift - Intermediate
Clean - Intermediate
Exactly. Only way to do them is ass-to-grass.MrS said:Sorry, parallel squats don't mean **** and are bad for your knees.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.