Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Agree on physiology. It’s a little chicken vs egg. For example blood flow from the above creating a physiological nerve stimulation causing all sorts of sexual ambition
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
That's just not true. Some people have naturally lower libido. I routinely go 2 weeks without fapping and several months without sex and don't even notice. Even when I'm in peak physical shape and health it's not very high for very long. I sometimes have short bursts of high libido but it only lasts a week or so and if I nut even once it goes away.
Then your body is out of balance whether you want to admit it or not. Being in good physical shape and your body being in balance are completely different things.
Out of balance? What exactly would be out of balance? I've been like this for 20+ years.
Out of curiosity, do you happen to be an introvert or have an avoidant personality?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Avoidant - no, but I am extremely introverted. I am alone all the time, plenty of recharging. Socializing can boost it slightly if for instance I'm in a place with lots of attractive women.
Totally agree with all, too bad people think that we should "put some work into socializing" as if we were lazy kids skipping homeworks.
Yup, stress is antagonistic to Test and libido in general. That's why I suggested Ashwagandha and Ginseng.
Hormones. Mineral levels. Typically these work in conjunction with one another and usually depend on ratios to each other.
Nigga I can attach some of my bloodwork if you want. My total T has been around 1000-1200ng/DL consistently every time I've tested the past 2 years. My vitamin D levels were also high, close to the top of the ref range. Thyroid T1-T4 were solid. Everything else was solid too, I've had comprehensive blood panels and lidid panels. It's just a dopamine thing. Not even an "imbalance" its just how I was built.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Age? Assuming you’re on exogenous T?
I don't think I've had specific t:e ratio and my Estradiol was only tested once: 34.5 pg/ml | Ref Range ≤ 47 pg/ml
No, and i'm 34
Them some amazing numbers for a 34 year old.
What's your Free T? Total T doesn't mean much it's the Free T that matters.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Goly F those T numbers, thats probably the closest thing to live in God mode.
Not really...his free T, the kind that actually matters, is low normal range for the most part. There is something funky going on there...perhaps look into Stinging Nettle Root to bind to SHBG to up your free T levels?
I took high dose stinging nettle root and boron for a few months, and while I don't recall if I had another test done after I took them, subjectively speaking I felt the exact same... I even tried Cabergoline to lower my prolactin levels and to see if it'd increase libido/refractory period but I felt no different on it (but did have mild side effects which indicates it was pharmacologically active).
It means nothing, subjectively and experientially nothing about me says high T except my face/facial hair, but that's mostly genetic/pre-natal anyway.
I asked them about this and they suggested weight lifting can elevate alk phos and said I shouldn't worry. Then again, Drs say that about everything because they're lazy and don't like opening up pandoras box.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.