You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Sometimes it is puzzling why a few rich businessmen are liberals. I think it's "wealth guilt" to coin a term. They think they need to be on the liberal side to compensate for being the "big bad rich guy." Whatever floats their boat.speed dawg said:Hey, I'll give them one thing.....they stand firm to their ideology, even if it means less profits. They believe in what they are doing.
To see a guy who built a company like Costco as a liberal is sort of surprising to me. The party that was built on jealousy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Very insightful. Agreed.Danger said:PC is definitely one reason.....but if you look at the leftist ideology, it makes it very difficult to rise to the top when you are getting bled to death.
Now, put yourself at the top of the position with a lot of rich business and elites.....they already reached the top. How do they stay there? Making it hard for anyone else to climb afterwards in their footsteps.
That's an apt explanation. Is there anything more hypocritical or more loathsome than a wealthy and powerful white male who espouses the liberal agenda, like say a US senator, talk show host or CEO ? They're willing to throw everyone else that fits their identity under the bus with their support of things like affirmative action, but they hold to their position of power and wealth themselves. Then most reprehensible and hypocritical, they smugly claim the moral high ground for "supporting disadvantaged" women and non-whiteys.Danger said:Now, put yourself at the top of the position with a lot of rich business and elites.....they already reached the top. How do they stay there? Making it hard for anyone else to climb afterwards in their footsteps.
Can't really say it any better than this.Stagger Lee said:That's an apt explanation. Is there anything more hypocritical or more loathsome than a wealthy and powerful white male who espouses the liberal agenda, like say a US senator, talk show host or CEO ? They're willing to throw everyone else that fits their identity under the bus with their support of things like affirmative action, but they hold to their position of power and wealth themselves. Then most reprehensible and hypocritical, they smugly claim the moral high ground for "supporting disadvantaged" women and non-whiteys.
All liberals play the "privileged white male" and apex fallacy card, and it's hypocritical when women Senators and non-whitey President does it, but extra hypocritical when say Harry Reid, Joe Biden or Warren Buffet does it.
F*ck yes.noobolgy said:Would you guys say the European Union and/ or the u.k. is very liberal in their ideologies?
Yes, absolutely.noobolgy said:Would you guys say the European Union and/ or the u.k. is very liberal in their ideologies?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
speed dawg said:F*ck yes.
Then they are slaves. Or its basically a cast system, complete with hypergamy on steroids.Mike32ct said:Yes, absolutely.