So Friday my roommate in NY brings home some chick and not only is she still here Sunday but she smokes and he lets her when I'm asleep. There are 6 butts in the ashtray. Neither of us smokes. Is it just me or is that wrong on many fronts? Because she never left I haven't been able to talk to him yet. I think he's whipped.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Letting a smoker smoke in your house?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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user43770
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I would be pissed.
incognito42
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If they knew you didnt allow smoking inside and did it when you were sleeping cause you wouldn't know, I'd deff confront them and be pissed about it no matter who it was
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Sir Psycho Sexy
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Why did you have an ashtray in the house then? It gives the impression smoking is allowed indoors. Either way it's not a big deal. Just tell her no smoking in the house...most smokers will respect someones home.
I hate being around cig smoke and 3 of my 6 roommates smoke. They are pretty good about going on the porch.
I hate being around cig smoke and 3 of my 6 roommates smoke. They are pretty good about going on the porch.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
backseatjuan
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Smoking home is wrong, doesn't matter if you have a roommate or not. You should tell her nicely to stop outside if she wants to smoke, and if she ignores you, or forgets, tell her to leave.
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BeDJ
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Where did the ashtray come from?
By allowing someone to smoke indoors, you are showing lack of respect for your house and those you share it with.
By allowing someone to smoke indoors, you are showing lack of respect for your house and those you share it with.
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This. Why didn't you tell her to stop smoking?Burroughs said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I tell people to smoke at the window. Even though I hardly respect my own boundaries, everyone knows this about me and respects it. Make it clear in your mind that you won't have it. Then communicate it, that doesn't have to be forceful, just consistent. You can do it in a pleasant way.
You can just start off with "I'm sorry but eh... "
You can just start off with "I'm sorry but eh... "
backseatjuan
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God damn guys, you are truly retarded in the USA! Congrads! Must be the fluoride in your water that making your IQ some 50 points less than it should be. Hey I read somewhere that in USA they had to lower average acceptable IQ or something. Geeezeeeee. What to do when someone smokes in your house, geeezeeee.
Retards!
Retards!