"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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Letting a girl down easy after a one night stand

Egoist

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i always suck at this..

f-closed last night, and dont want to see her again.. she was sorta into me though.

so i dont wanna be the ass like usually when i just disappear and dont answer the calls.

Instead, should i just feed her some BS like "Oh, it was wonderful, but it made me realize that I am still not over my ex-girlfriend" ?

or any other ideas?
 

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Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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locarius

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Uh how about dont have one night stands with women if you do not want to hurt them.

Be a ****ing man and tell her.
 

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Just tell her the truth. Don't lie. How often do you have one night stands man? Is she hot?
 

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HAHA guilty conscience huh.....

Just be like I was really drunk last night or if you were not drunk tell her ur not looking for a relationship right now. Or you could be daring and say that you made a mistake but that could turn out bad or use the girlfriend excuse.
 

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Originally posted by locarius
Uh how about dont have one night stands with women if you do not want to hurt them.

Be a ****ing man and tell her.
what the **** kind of a reply is it???

uhm, i didnt pressure her into it or made her do anything she didnt want to. We are both adults, and we did it.

I am just being nice in thinking about it, i mean logically i don't owe her anything because nothing was promised.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Egoist

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Originally posted by Immaculate
Just tell her the truth. Don't lie. How often do you have one night stands man? Is she hot?
i've had a few one night stands this year since breaking up with a very-LTR early spring.

Its always the same, meet a girl through friends or online, meet up for drinks or at her house, f-close that night, lose interest the next day.

i dont lie or cheat and always use protection though. but its getting kinda old.
 

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p.s. its scary how much your mentality changes once you become aware of certain things.. I didn't even particularly want to **** her, it was just out of principle cause she put up her slut defenses a few times when i walked her home..

so of course, being naturally competitive, i was kinda like "oh, resist me?" and ended up banging a chick i didnt really wanna bang..
:(
 

Egoist

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Originally posted by Immaculate
Just tell her the truth. Don't lie. How often do you have one night stands man? Is she hot?
she'd be an eight, except she's a little curvy, so i dont know how the system works here.. 7 years older than me also.. :cool:
 

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Originally posted by Egoist
p.s. its scary how much your mentality changes once you become aware of certain things.. I didn't even particularly want to **** her, it was just out of principle cause she put up her slut defenses a few times when i walked her home..
lol been there done that. I've ****ed a couple of *****es just out of principle, even though I wasn't particularly attracted to them.

Anyways, how you let her go depends on if you are in a situation where you might bump into her again. If there is a possibility that your paths may cross, go with something along the lines of 'it was really nice last night, but I'm not ready for a commitment'. If you're never gonna see her again, just loose her number.
 

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Originally posted by Centaurion
lol been there done that. I've ****ed a couple of *****es just out of principle, even though I wasn't particularly attracted to them.

Anyways, how you let her go depends on if you are in a situation where you might bump into her again. If there is a possibility that your paths may cross, go with something along the lines of 'it was really nice last night, but I'm not ready for a commitment'. If you're never gonna see her again, just loose her number.
well i dont know, i sorta believe in karma.. at least if i drop her in the nice way the chances that i will one day find out she is a psycho stalker are somewhat less....
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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