"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Letting a girl down easy after a one night stand

Egoist

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i always suck at this..

f-closed last night, and dont want to see her again.. she was sorta into me though.

so i dont wanna be the ass like usually when i just disappear and dont answer the calls.

Instead, should i just feed her some BS like "Oh, it was wonderful, but it made me realize that I am still not over my ex-girlfriend" ?

or any other ideas?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Uh how about dont have one night stands with women if you do not want to hurt them.

Be a ****ing man and tell her.
 

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Just tell her the truth. Don't lie. How often do you have one night stands man? Is she hot?
 

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HAHA guilty conscience huh.....

Just be like I was really drunk last night or if you were not drunk tell her ur not looking for a relationship right now. Or you could be daring and say that you made a mistake but that could turn out bad or use the girlfriend excuse.
 

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Originally posted by locarius
Uh how about dont have one night stands with women if you do not want to hurt them.

Be a ****ing man and tell her.
what the **** kind of a reply is it???

uhm, i didnt pressure her into it or made her do anything she didnt want to. We are both adults, and we did it.

I am just being nice in thinking about it, i mean logically i don't owe her anything because nothing was promised.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Egoist

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Originally posted by Immaculate
Just tell her the truth. Don't lie. How often do you have one night stands man? Is she hot?
i've had a few one night stands this year since breaking up with a very-LTR early spring.

Its always the same, meet a girl through friends or online, meet up for drinks or at her house, f-close that night, lose interest the next day.

i dont lie or cheat and always use protection though. but its getting kinda old.
 

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p.s. its scary how much your mentality changes once you become aware of certain things.. I didn't even particularly want to **** her, it was just out of principle cause she put up her slut defenses a few times when i walked her home..

so of course, being naturally competitive, i was kinda like "oh, resist me?" and ended up banging a chick i didnt really wanna bang..
:(
 

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Originally posted by Immaculate
Just tell her the truth. Don't lie. How often do you have one night stands man? Is she hot?
she'd be an eight, except she's a little curvy, so i dont know how the system works here.. 7 years older than me also.. :cool:
 

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Originally posted by Egoist
p.s. its scary how much your mentality changes once you become aware of certain things.. I didn't even particularly want to **** her, it was just out of principle cause she put up her slut defenses a few times when i walked her home..
lol been there done that. I've ****ed a couple of *****es just out of principle, even though I wasn't particularly attracted to them.

Anyways, how you let her go depends on if you are in a situation where you might bump into her again. If there is a possibility that your paths may cross, go with something along the lines of 'it was really nice last night, but I'm not ready for a commitment'. If you're never gonna see her again, just loose her number.
 

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Originally posted by Centaurion
lol been there done that. I've ****ed a couple of *****es just out of principle, even though I wasn't particularly attracted to them.

Anyways, how you let her go depends on if you are in a situation where you might bump into her again. If there is a possibility that your paths may cross, go with something along the lines of 'it was really nice last night, but I'm not ready for a commitment'. If you're never gonna see her again, just loose her number.
well i dont know, i sorta believe in karma.. at least if i drop her in the nice way the chances that i will one day find out she is a psycho stalker are somewhat less....
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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