"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Letting a girl down easy after a one night stand

Egoist

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i always suck at this..

f-closed last night, and dont want to see her again.. she was sorta into me though.

so i dont wanna be the ass like usually when i just disappear and dont answer the calls.

Instead, should i just feed her some BS like "Oh, it was wonderful, but it made me realize that I am still not over my ex-girlfriend" ?

or any other ideas?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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locarius

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Uh how about dont have one night stands with women if you do not want to hurt them.

Be a ****ing man and tell her.
 

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Just tell her the truth. Don't lie. How often do you have one night stands man? Is she hot?
 

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HAHA guilty conscience huh.....

Just be like I was really drunk last night or if you were not drunk tell her ur not looking for a relationship right now. Or you could be daring and say that you made a mistake but that could turn out bad or use the girlfriend excuse.
 

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Originally posted by locarius
Uh how about dont have one night stands with women if you do not want to hurt them.

Be a ****ing man and tell her.
what the **** kind of a reply is it???

uhm, i didnt pressure her into it or made her do anything she didnt want to. We are both adults, and we did it.

I am just being nice in thinking about it, i mean logically i don't owe her anything because nothing was promised.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Egoist

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Originally posted by Immaculate
Just tell her the truth. Don't lie. How often do you have one night stands man? Is she hot?
i've had a few one night stands this year since breaking up with a very-LTR early spring.

Its always the same, meet a girl through friends or online, meet up for drinks or at her house, f-close that night, lose interest the next day.

i dont lie or cheat and always use protection though. but its getting kinda old.
 

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p.s. its scary how much your mentality changes once you become aware of certain things.. I didn't even particularly want to **** her, it was just out of principle cause she put up her slut defenses a few times when i walked her home..

so of course, being naturally competitive, i was kinda like "oh, resist me?" and ended up banging a chick i didnt really wanna bang..
:(
 

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Originally posted by Immaculate
Just tell her the truth. Don't lie. How often do you have one night stands man? Is she hot?
she'd be an eight, except she's a little curvy, so i dont know how the system works here.. 7 years older than me also.. :cool:
 

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Originally posted by Egoist
p.s. its scary how much your mentality changes once you become aware of certain things.. I didn't even particularly want to **** her, it was just out of principle cause she put up her slut defenses a few times when i walked her home..
lol been there done that. I've ****ed a couple of *****es just out of principle, even though I wasn't particularly attracted to them.

Anyways, how you let her go depends on if you are in a situation where you might bump into her again. If there is a possibility that your paths may cross, go with something along the lines of 'it was really nice last night, but I'm not ready for a commitment'. If you're never gonna see her again, just loose her number.
 

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Originally posted by Centaurion
lol been there done that. I've ****ed a couple of *****es just out of principle, even though I wasn't particularly attracted to them.

Anyways, how you let her go depends on if you are in a situation where you might bump into her again. If there is a possibility that your paths may cross, go with something along the lines of 'it was really nice last night, but I'm not ready for a commitment'. If you're never gonna see her again, just loose her number.
well i dont know, i sorta believe in karma.. at least if i drop her in the nice way the chances that i will one day find out she is a psycho stalker are somewhat less....
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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