"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Let's Talk About Strength

TheSlasher

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When the word "strength" and/or "power" comes into play, what gets into your mind?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Power and strength are different. Power and Authority are different. Authority seeks to accomplish, power seeks to control. Strength is a tool to do either, and is founded in self discipline.
 

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MOTU said:
Power and strength are different. Power and Authority are different. Authority seeks to accomplish, power seeks to control. Strength is a tool to do either, and is founded in self discipline.
Hi MOTU. Thanks for the reply. Your remark on the difference between authority and power reminded me of a chapter from Robert Greene and 50 Cent's The 50th Law, and also of Greene's The 48 Laws of Power, and ultimately, your remark on strength reminded me of his most recent book to date, Mastery. Since strength is the foundation of both, and its foundation is self-discipline, how do you propose could I improve more on my self-discipline? Based on my own experience, I find it lacking that all I have to do is a strict schedule, my emotions had to be engaged on the activity as well. That being said, do you also have other ways on how I can improve this? And do you think there are different kinds of strength that I should know of and improve in myself?

Thanks!
 

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This topic is good for me too Slasher. My self discipline is very good when it comes to things that I want to do but are difficult. But not so good on things that I don't see value in but know that I still need to do. I also struggle with self discipline when it comes to eating and drinking... while I have significantly improved in this area, I still tend to be impulsive.

I think strength, honor, integrity and self control are things that you *live* every day... not things that you accomplish at some point and then move on. The mere fact that you are thinking about this, and value your own character, will help keep you on the right path.
 

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True, one of my problems now is persistence. For example, I could start studying but one point, I'd get tired and so stop for a while, and unknowingly, I'd be stopping altogether. By the way, I think the most difficult part when it comes to harnessing our discipline is starting, except for resuming after a break.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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