let's take it slow? what does this mean

[Ryan Adams]

been talking to this chick for 3-4 months now great sex etc talk every day dates at least once a week. out of nowhere she tells me that she wants to take it slow.... she still wants to to hang out but she said she can't be super available and can't be 100 % focused on seeing me. in her defense she does work 7 days a week etc she said the balls in my court because she doesn't want me dealing with it... wtf should I do from here?

 

[marmel75]

Ignore what she says and focus on what she does.

Continue along the same path.

 

[Ryan Adams]

solid.

 

[Mazer]

I️ would go no contact for a few days. Could be a **** test or she wants to date other dudes, by the three month mark they should be bringing up relationship talk not this bs. A woman is highly interested would never tell you this afraid she will lose you to someone else. Start dating other chicks and mKe yourself less available.

 

[lizardking82]

Solid advice by @Mazer .

 

[Fireballs]

Sh!t test .. agree & amplify

Her: I want to take it slow
You: You read my mind! Can I pencil you in next month ?

 

[derby1]

as above i had all this, agreed to meet her in a month, she was blowing my phone up within 48 hours to arrange a sooner date

 

[El Payaso]

"You're right. I've been thinking the same thing. We moved way too fast. Let's slow things. I'll see you in a month".

Go ghost.

 

[Ryan Adams]

solid advice fellas. should I never initiate and let her do it all. and when she does text how should I respond go colder or act the same

 

[wifehunter]

she tired of you flavor ice cream

she want to try new flavor!

because wh0ring is more fun!

 

[icantgetlaid]

solid advice fellas. should I never initiate and let her do it all. and when she does text how should I respond go colder or act the same

Don't ever get caught up in what a girl says ... what are her actions telling you?

Is she responding to all of your texts in a timely manner? accepting all of your dates? submissive to you in your interactions? submissive to you in bed? etc. etc.

So long as all of this is going on ... what she says doesn't matter. Keep doing the same thing because it's clearly working.

NOW if you notice her behavior changing since/or around the time she made those comments then I would start making changes as well and following a lot of the advice in this thread (being less available, giving her more space,etc.)

 

[Ryan Adams]

she is doing all of the above her actions show her being very much infatuated with me for the most part.

 

[icantgetlaid]

she is doing all of the above her actions show her being very much infatuated with me for the most part.

good that you clarified this ... it was probably a sh1t test and you passed it ... just ignore her comment and proceed as normal

 

[Red Legg]

Solid advice by @Mazer .

I disagree.....When a woman says she want's to "take it slow" from my experience it means 1,2,possibly 3 guys are in the background competing and she is trying to decide who to go with as her main.If I really liked her I would compete and "charge" so to speak asking her out calling her and so forth...FORCE her to make a decision going "no contact" as others have stated is just asinine.

 

[icantgetlaid]

I disagree.....When a woman says she want's to "take it slow" from my experience it means 1,2,possibly 3 guys are in the background competing and she is trying to decide who to go with as her main.If I really liked her I would compete and "charge" so to speak asking her out calling her and so forth...FORCE her to make a decision going "no contact" as others have stated is just asinine.

follow this advice and kill any attraction she has for you in the process

 

[JonnyD123]

I disagree.....When a woman says she want's to "take it slow" from my experience it means 1,2,possibly 3 guys are in the background competing and she is trying to decide who to go with as her main.If I really liked her I would compete and "charge" so to speak asking her out calling her and so forth...FORCE her to make a decision going "no contact" as others have stated is just asinine.

Troll. Do not do this.

 

[dude99]

been talking to this chick for 3-4 months now great sex etc talk every day dates at least once a week. out of nowhere she tells me that she wants to take it slow.... she still wants to to hang out but she said she can't be super available and can't be 100 % focused on seeing me. in her defense she does work 7 days a week etc she said the balls in my court because she doesn't want me dealing with it... wtf should I do from here?

You say "no problem." Lower her down on your list of priorities and date other women.

When she realizes she is only hearing from you once a month, and you are not returning her phone calls or texts you just let her know your a busy guy with a lot on the go. Then resume dating other women.

She is testing to see if she backs off if you will panic and chase her.

Do not chase her.

 

[Red Legg]

follow this advice and kill any attraction she has for you in the process

So what?? like I said you are just one of a couple of guys......oh and spin plates at the same time..

 

[derby1]

treat her like you really cba with her but not rude to her, a bit like when an ugly chick messages you but she used to be your neighbour so you still be polite but you reply like a year later................AND WATCH WHAT HAPPENS

 

[Ryan Adams]

not chasing. she's already texting me seeing how my day is going etc. I think she just doesn't want to be burned like she supposedly has in the past and is scared of jumping into a relationship

I'm cool with taking it slow I don't wanna start dating right now anyway. so I mean I'm not really complaining.she said we might be on different pages etc. I also don't wanna lose contact she's a really cool chick who i enjoy hanging out with