"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Let yourself fail!
- Thread starter Pook
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Mr_Stinky
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This is some good sh*t!USSOCOM said:Good post! I'd like to add that some times the fear of rejection is often less than the fear of success. Myself included, one might seem to be afraid of rejection, but underlying is a fear of success. Often success is new ground that hasn't been marched through... The law of nature prevents anyone from being 100% successful and forward progress is always stunted by rejection or failure. In conclusion, success is as equally important as failure in the learning process... Hopin for some feedback on this.
seek&destroy
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Take it from someone who has failed more times that it is possible to count on both hands...and possibly feet!
Rejection has made me much stronger as a person. I used to be afraid of striking out, until I got rejected harshly by a girl I had a terrible crush on. I made a mistake no guy should ever make...and told her ALL about my "feelings" for her way before it was time. She ran for the hills, and I still tried chasing her, out of nothing but sheer desperation. I'm not going to explain exactly what happened...you can search it on the boards.
...now, I was a virgin when I first met this girl 2 years ago, so this explains why I acted the way I did. After this, I got motivated to better myself, and have been with 5 ladies within the past year alone. I would say that's not too bad of a start for an ex 23-year old virgin (I'm turning 26 in 4 weeks today).
So Pook, my friend, you hit the nail right on the head!
...as usual
Also, I just came back from a 6 month internship position gained through school. Her boyfriend was interviewed right after me for the same position, I ran into him on my way out of that place. He was not as fortunate as me, and was in between jobs during that time.
One small failure can lead to a much greater success.
-OBEY YOUR MASTER!!!-
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Betterthanyesterday
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18 years, thanks to Rollo Tomassi