"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Let yourself fail!
- Thread starter Pook
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Mr_Stinky
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This is some good sh*t!USSOCOM said:Good post! I'd like to add that some times the fear of rejection is often less than the fear of success. Myself included, one might seem to be afraid of rejection, but underlying is a fear of success. Often success is new ground that hasn't been marched through... The law of nature prevents anyone from being 100% successful and forward progress is always stunted by rejection or failure. In conclusion, success is as equally important as failure in the learning process... Hopin for some feedback on this.
seek&destroy
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Take it from someone who has failed more times that it is possible to count on both hands...and possibly feet!
Rejection has made me much stronger as a person. I used to be afraid of striking out, until I got rejected harshly by a girl I had a terrible crush on. I made a mistake no guy should ever make...and told her ALL about my "feelings" for her way before it was time. She ran for the hills, and I still tried chasing her, out of nothing but sheer desperation. I'm not going to explain exactly what happened...you can search it on the boards.
...now, I was a virgin when I first met this girl 2 years ago, so this explains why I acted the way I did. After this, I got motivated to better myself, and have been with 5 ladies within the past year alone. I would say that's not too bad of a start for an ex 23-year old virgin (I'm turning 26 in 4 weeks today).
So Pook, my friend, you hit the nail right on the head!
...as usual
Also, I just came back from a 6 month internship position gained through school. Her boyfriend was interviewed right after me for the same position, I ran into him on my way out of that place. He was not as fortunate as me, and was in between jobs during that time.
One small failure can lead to a much greater success.
-OBEY YOUR MASTER!!!-
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Betterthanyesterday
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18 years, thanks to Rollo Tomassi