After our date, I texted my GF why did she seem not happy throughout the date, like something's been bothering her. At first, she wouldn't answer, but then she admits that it's something I said. But she wasn't telling what it is. She kept acting like there's nothing wrong. Well, she's the kind of girl that's afraid to let it all out. In this situation, what should I've done? Keep trying to pry information from her, or just let the sleeping dogs lie? Sorry for my bad english. Thanks for your advice.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Let the Sleeping Dogs Lie?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
KontrollerX
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I've dealt with the passive aggressive type before.
The only thing you can do is ask what is wrong and what you said and if she won't answer you reply oh ok and then go back to doing what you are doing.
Hehe, the idea is to teach them if they want conflicts resolved they have to break through their own mental barriers and make their problems known to you without you having to yell and scream and basically force them to tell you whats what.
If something is bothering them enough eventually they will tell you so long as you don't try and force it out but act like everything is ok until they open up the lines of communication.
The only thing you can do is ask what is wrong and what you said and if she won't answer you reply oh ok and then go back to doing what you are doing.
Hehe, the idea is to teach them if they want conflicts resolved they have to break through their own mental barriers and make their problems known to you without you having to yell and scream and basically force them to tell you whats what.
If something is bothering them enough eventually they will tell you so long as you don't try and force it out but act like everything is ok until they open up the lines of communication.
ready123
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if, it really drives you nuts, tell her you value honesty in a relationship and that when she holds back, it makes you feel like she doesn't trust you enough to communicate. you're just being honest w/ her and if she flips on you, she's got issuesFela Kuti said:
also, how long you been with this girl? is she an actual exclusive girlfriend or someone you're just dating
KontrollerX
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Passive aggressive is a person that is holding back on being 0utwardly aggressive.
Basically they express their aggression in different ways than outright hostility such as physical violence or harsh language which would be outright hostility.
Passive aggressive tactics towards lovers are to go silent, sulk, act annoyed, cause arguments over little things but end the arguments quickly before getting to the root of the problem so no real progress can be made.
Their tactics are used to frustrate and anger the person they believe harmed them without using outright harsh words or physical violence as their payback method of choice.
Basically they express their aggression in different ways than outright hostility such as physical violence or harsh language which would be outright hostility.
Passive aggressive tactics towards lovers are to go silent, sulk, act annoyed, cause arguments over little things but end the arguments quickly before getting to the root of the problem so no real progress can be made.
Their tactics are used to frustrate and anger the person they believe harmed them without using outright harsh words or physical violence as their payback method of choice.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Actually I was able to make her talk. She said that it's because she doesn't like my sudden change of date plan. Initially the plan is to go to a free concert together. But then I changed my mind, saying that I just want to go there to meet a friend then go home. Is this wrong, btw? I think even though it's wrong, it's no big deal to be bothered about..ready123 said:
She's already my GF for about 4 months.
Rhoto
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It's not a big deal. Just let your girlfriend know that if she doesn't like the way you do things, she can leave.Her responses will largely determine what kind of relationship you're in for.Fela Kuti said:
It seems like she expects you to bow to her demands; she has a higher perceived value than you. Correct that or move on.