After our date, I texted my GF why did she seem not happy throughout the date, like something's been bothering her. At first, she wouldn't answer, but then she admits that it's something I said. But she wasn't telling what it is. She kept acting like there's nothing wrong. Well, she's the kind of girl that's afraid to let it all out. In this situation, what should I've done? Keep trying to pry information from her, or just let the sleeping dogs lie? Sorry for my bad english. Thanks for your advice.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Let the Sleeping Dogs Lie?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
KontrollerX
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I've dealt with the passive aggressive type before.
The only thing you can do is ask what is wrong and what you said and if she won't answer you reply oh ok and then go back to doing what you are doing.
Hehe, the idea is to teach them if they want conflicts resolved they have to break through their own mental barriers and make their problems known to you without you having to yell and scream and basically force them to tell you whats what.
If something is bothering them enough eventually they will tell you so long as you don't try and force it out but act like everything is ok until they open up the lines of communication.
The only thing you can do is ask what is wrong and what you said and if she won't answer you reply oh ok and then go back to doing what you are doing.
Hehe, the idea is to teach them if they want conflicts resolved they have to break through their own mental barriers and make their problems known to you without you having to yell and scream and basically force them to tell you whats what.
If something is bothering them enough eventually they will tell you so long as you don't try and force it out but act like everything is ok until they open up the lines of communication.
ready123
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if, it really drives you nuts, tell her you value honesty in a relationship and that when she holds back, it makes you feel like she doesn't trust you enough to communicate. you're just being honest w/ her and if she flips on you, she's got issuesFela Kuti said:
also, how long you been with this girl? is she an actual exclusive girlfriend or someone you're just dating
KontrollerX
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Passive aggressive is a person that is holding back on being 0utwardly aggressive.
Basically they express their aggression in different ways than outright hostility such as physical violence or harsh language which would be outright hostility.
Passive aggressive tactics towards lovers are to go silent, sulk, act annoyed, cause arguments over little things but end the arguments quickly before getting to the root of the problem so no real progress can be made.
Their tactics are used to frustrate and anger the person they believe harmed them without using outright harsh words or physical violence as their payback method of choice.
Basically they express their aggression in different ways than outright hostility such as physical violence or harsh language which would be outright hostility.
Passive aggressive tactics towards lovers are to go silent, sulk, act annoyed, cause arguments over little things but end the arguments quickly before getting to the root of the problem so no real progress can be made.
Their tactics are used to frustrate and anger the person they believe harmed them without using outright harsh words or physical violence as their payback method of choice.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Actually I was able to make her talk. She said that it's because she doesn't like my sudden change of date plan. Initially the plan is to go to a free concert together. But then I changed my mind, saying that I just want to go there to meet a friend then go home. Is this wrong, btw? I think even though it's wrong, it's no big deal to be bothered about..ready123 said:
She's already my GF for about 4 months.
Rhoto
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It's not a big deal. Just let your girlfriend know that if she doesn't like the way you do things, she can leave.Her responses will largely determine what kind of relationship you're in for.Fela Kuti said:
It seems like she expects you to bow to her demands; she has a higher perceived value than you. Correct that or move on.