After our date, I texted my GF why did she seem not happy throughout the date, like something's been bothering her. At first, she wouldn't answer, but then she admits that it's something I said. But she wasn't telling what it is. She kept acting like there's nothing wrong. Well, she's the kind of girl that's afraid to let it all out. In this situation, what should I've done? Keep trying to pry information from her, or just let the sleeping dogs lie? Sorry for my bad english. Thanks for your advice.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Let the Sleeping Dogs Lie?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
KontrollerX
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I've dealt with the passive aggressive type before.
The only thing you can do is ask what is wrong and what you said and if she won't answer you reply oh ok and then go back to doing what you are doing.
Hehe, the idea is to teach them if they want conflicts resolved they have to break through their own mental barriers and make their problems known to you without you having to yell and scream and basically force them to tell you whats what.
If something is bothering them enough eventually they will tell you so long as you don't try and force it out but act like everything is ok until they open up the lines of communication.
The only thing you can do is ask what is wrong and what you said and if she won't answer you reply oh ok and then go back to doing what you are doing.
Hehe, the idea is to teach them if they want conflicts resolved they have to break through their own mental barriers and make their problems known to you without you having to yell and scream and basically force them to tell you whats what.
If something is bothering them enough eventually they will tell you so long as you don't try and force it out but act like everything is ok until they open up the lines of communication.
ready123
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if, it really drives you nuts, tell her you value honesty in a relationship and that when she holds back, it makes you feel like she doesn't trust you enough to communicate. you're just being honest w/ her and if she flips on you, she's got issuesFela Kuti said:
also, how long you been with this girl? is she an actual exclusive girlfriend or someone you're just dating
KontrollerX
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Passive aggressive is a person that is holding back on being 0utwardly aggressive.
Basically they express their aggression in different ways than outright hostility such as physical violence or harsh language which would be outright hostility.
Passive aggressive tactics towards lovers are to go silent, sulk, act annoyed, cause arguments over little things but end the arguments quickly before getting to the root of the problem so no real progress can be made.
Their tactics are used to frustrate and anger the person they believe harmed them without using outright harsh words or physical violence as their payback method of choice.
Basically they express their aggression in different ways than outright hostility such as physical violence or harsh language which would be outright hostility.
Passive aggressive tactics towards lovers are to go silent, sulk, act annoyed, cause arguments over little things but end the arguments quickly before getting to the root of the problem so no real progress can be made.
Their tactics are used to frustrate and anger the person they believe harmed them without using outright harsh words or physical violence as their payback method of choice.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Actually I was able to make her talk. She said that it's because she doesn't like my sudden change of date plan. Initially the plan is to go to a free concert together. But then I changed my mind, saying that I just want to go there to meet a friend then go home. Is this wrong, btw? I think even though it's wrong, it's no big deal to be bothered about..ready123 said:
She's already my GF for about 4 months.
Rhoto
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It's not a big deal. Just let your girlfriend know that if she doesn't like the way you do things, she can leave.Her responses will largely determine what kind of relationship you're in for.Fela Kuti said:
It seems like she expects you to bow to her demands; she has a higher perceived value than you. Correct that or move on.