That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Some chicks never initiate, ever.zorg198 said:I fell i'm wasting my time with this chick so i should move on, i mean if this girl is interested in me she needs to initiate something no?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
OK, but to send her text or call her will worth something since i will see her on Sunday?Johnnyventana said:I think you are making this too hard, too soon. Make plans, see her. Wait some, make plans, see her, repeat! Cut the interim chit-chat, you'll have more to talk about when you do see each other. It's too early for her to chase you, you have not shown her ANY value.
Johnnyventana said:No need to text if you are already seeing her Sunday. That's in 2 days yo! 2 measly days. Stop killing the attraction. My gawd, are you a 3-year old at Christmas? Patience. Coolness.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
"The attitude dictates that you don't care whether she comes, stays, lays or prays. I mean no matter what happens your toes are still tappin'. Now when you got that, then you have the attitude."nismo-4 said:A girl will really miss you if you hit it and gave her some mind blowing orgasms. Whoever cares the least controls the interaction. Playfully don't give a f**k.
hardliquor said:Be a prize. A girl can spend eight days and nights straight with you and still miss you the first hour of the ninth. What do you have that is worth missing?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
zorg198 said:Hello
I have been seen this girl over two week for now , almost every day! how i make it to let her come to me but not look like i am not interested? i will see her next time only on Sunday... i thought not talking to her at all until Sunday but i would like to get advice on this.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.