Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Some chicks never initiate, ever.zorg198 said:I fell i'm wasting my time with this chick so i should move on, i mean if this girl is interested in me she needs to initiate something no?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
OK, but to send her text or call her will worth something since i will see her on Sunday?Johnnyventana said:I think you are making this too hard, too soon. Make plans, see her. Wait some, make plans, see her, repeat! Cut the interim chit-chat, you'll have more to talk about when you do see each other. It's too early for her to chase you, you have not shown her ANY value.
Johnnyventana said:No need to text if you are already seeing her Sunday. That's in 2 days yo! 2 measly days. Stop killing the attraction. My gawd, are you a 3-year old at Christmas? Patience. Coolness.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
"The attitude dictates that you don't care whether she comes, stays, lays or prays. I mean no matter what happens your toes are still tappin'. Now when you got that, then you have the attitude."nismo-4 said:A girl will really miss you if you hit it and gave her some mind blowing orgasms. Whoever cares the least controls the interaction. Playfully don't give a f**k.
hardliquor said:Be a prize. A girl can spend eight days and nights straight with you and still miss you the first hour of the ninth. What do you have that is worth missing?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
zorg198 said:Hello
I have been seen this girl over two week for now , almost every day! how i make it to let her come to me but not look like i am not interested? i will see her next time only on Sunday... i thought not talking to her at all until Sunday but i would like to get advice on this.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.