Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Some chicks never initiate, ever.zorg198 said:I fell i'm wasting my time with this chick so i should move on, i mean if this girl is interested in me she needs to initiate something no?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
OK, but to send her text or call her will worth something since i will see her on Sunday?Johnnyventana said:I think you are making this too hard, too soon. Make plans, see her. Wait some, make plans, see her, repeat! Cut the interim chit-chat, you'll have more to talk about when you do see each other. It's too early for her to chase you, you have not shown her ANY value.
Johnnyventana said:No need to text if you are already seeing her Sunday. That's in 2 days yo! 2 measly days. Stop killing the attraction. My gawd, are you a 3-year old at Christmas? Patience. Coolness.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
"The attitude dictates that you don't care whether she comes, stays, lays or prays. I mean no matter what happens your toes are still tappin'. Now when you got that, then you have the attitude."nismo-4 said:A girl will really miss you if you hit it and gave her some mind blowing orgasms. Whoever cares the least controls the interaction. Playfully don't give a f**k.
hardliquor said:Be a prize. A girl can spend eight days and nights straight with you and still miss you the first hour of the ninth. What do you have that is worth missing?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
zorg198 said:Hello
I have been seen this girl over two week for now , almost every day! how i make it to let her come to me but not look like i am not interested? i will see her next time only on Sunday... i thought not talking to her at all until Sunday but i would like to get advice on this.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.