"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

Lessons from Older DJs here!

nmartinez12443

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jul 23, 2008
Messages
296
Reaction score
46

Do everything on this list to improve your outer appearance which will also in turn greatly improve your confidence/le-way with women.

Inner Game:

1. Never get too emotional, you are supposed to be the emotional rock. This is in regards to anger, frustration, and being too lovey dovey early on. Not saying never show any emotion just don't overdo it especially early on.

2. Women are the gate keepers to sex and men are the gatekeepers to relationships. Let her push for the relationship.

3. Keep a close eye on her relationships with her parents, siblings, and friends. Avoid girls with only guy friends/trash her friends. Women who hate their dad, come from divorce, and hate their sisters/family are bad news. Mom/sisters fat there's your future.

4. Don't date women from work, instead be their friends and date their friends. Exceptions would be a job you don't care about and can/about to walk away from.

5. Look for iois when approaching, but if your really into a girl just go for it. Regret is worse than rejection, which 98% of the time will be the conversation sputtering out or her saying she has a bf, not bad all.

6. The biggest IOI while in conversation for me is if a girls asks you anything about yourself and tries to keep the conversation going. If your doing 90% of the talking your doing it wrong.

7. 50% of game is logistics, 30% trying, and 20% maximizing your looka. Even if you got to live in a 400 square foot studio do it. Be close to the action and in a major US city with good demographics ideally (north/east coast usually has more girls than men).

8. Don't be a fixer upper. She's not going to lose weight, get a job, stop doing drugs, having multiple kids with dirt bags. Women in the usa have unlimited options and won't change.

9. Don't do anything to excess drugs, alcohol, food. Even excess positive things can be detrimental.

10. Use every avenue to meet women. Bars, through friends, interest clubs/groups, online. Don't be one dimensional, for most who arent in the top 20% your likely going to have success through meeting people by mutual friends or groups.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

manfrombelow

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 28, 2021
Messages
1,715
Reaction score
2,209
Age
37
A lot of gents have mentioned the control of emotions, something that I have (and still am) learned the hard way, something that caused me a lot of troubles during my growing up and interacting with the outside society.

And most importantly, it's something that should have been taught to me by my father. But the poor bastard could not control even his own emotions, let alone taught me about it. But this is, of course, another story.

Please keep this thread going, gentlemens. I am very very very grateful for your all contributions.
 
Last edited:

Chuck Taylor

Banned
Joined
Mar 26, 2022
Messages
292
Reaction score
351
'I think we should take a break' is code for "This new guy that I really want to fvck has recently come into the picture. When I'm done having fun with him, we can start dating again."

Ergo, when a chick tells you "I think we should take a break," your response should be "Alright. Cool." then leave. don't contact her again.
 

Machine10033

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 29, 2017
Messages
768
Reaction score
1,068
Age
45
Getting women is the side affect of living your best life dedicated to self development and becoming the best version of your self..... they are not the primary goal!
 

Solomon

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 28, 2008
Messages
6,555
Reaction score
4,116
Location
Inside her mind
Workout, eat healthy, and take care of yourself not just physically, but mentally.

Money is important, but shouldn't be your only focus in life meaning have hobbies and do things you enjoy.

As far as women, don't tolerate any bs or bad behavior and maintain self respect at all times. If at any moment a woman brings you stress or becomes difficult, you next her without hesitation.
This

Number 1. thing I would say, read the bible,pursue the mercy of Jesus christ at all osst, pray, pray, and pray some more
your life will change forever

I have stories from the last 3 years that would blow peoples mind. Jesus is alive and real
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

Top