"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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line_in_the_sand

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I've been thinking a lot for a few years, and have come to the conclusion that I'm thinking too much! :rolleyes:

All my problems come down to me "hyping" my fears by visualising the worst case scenario (by now it's almost automatic). I've recently experimentet with actively thinking less (d'oh), didn't really work! :eek:

I would love to hear your stories on how you stopped thinking (so much) and got smarter/better/happier/etc as a result of it - hope you understand the question. :cool:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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What you are describing isn't thinking, it's worrying. The difference between the two is that thinking eventually produces answers that a person can act upon. Conversely, worrying is just spinning your wheels about worse case scenarios without making an effort to find a solution. If you can understand the difference, you may be able to realize your own solution to your problem.
 
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^ what Francisco said, and...

...I realized worrying is pointless. I realized that I cannot control what other people think of me, what they do, or what they may choose to do as a result of my actions. The only person I can control is myself and my own thoughts, so why bother wasting my time worrying about things I have no control over whatsoever?

Watching the movie Fight Club reiterated this for me...also, see the first quote in my signature...
 
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Originally posted by line_in_the_sand
I would love to hear your stories on how you stopped thinking (so much) and got smarter/better/happier/etc as a result of it - hope you understand the question. :cool:
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daaah i git miself a lobetamy an now i don be thicking mulch
 
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Joe The Homophobe

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Originally posted by line_in_the_sand
I would love to hear your stories on how you stopped thinking (so much) and got smarter/better/happier/etc as a result of it - hope you understand the question. :cool:
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I went through this. A few years ago I became a worry free person. This radical change in mindset made me more calm/laid back but it didn't make me smarter/happier. I now live with the mentality of living for today, never worrying about the future.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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