"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Less thinking!

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line_in_the_sand

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I've been thinking a lot for a few years, and have come to the conclusion that I'm thinking too much! :rolleyes:

All my problems come down to me "hyping" my fears by visualising the worst case scenario (by now it's almost automatic). I've recently experimentet with actively thinking less (d'oh), didn't really work! :eek:

I would love to hear your stories on how you stopped thinking (so much) and got smarter/better/happier/etc as a result of it - hope you understand the question. :cool:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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What you are describing isn't thinking, it's worrying. The difference between the two is that thinking eventually produces answers that a person can act upon. Conversely, worrying is just spinning your wheels about worse case scenarios without making an effort to find a solution. If you can understand the difference, you may be able to realize your own solution to your problem.
 
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^ what Francisco said, and...

...I realized worrying is pointless. I realized that I cannot control what other people think of me, what they do, or what they may choose to do as a result of my actions. The only person I can control is myself and my own thoughts, so why bother wasting my time worrying about things I have no control over whatsoever?

Watching the movie Fight Club reiterated this for me...also, see the first quote in my signature...
 
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Originally posted by line_in_the_sand
I would love to hear your stories on how you stopped thinking (so much) and got smarter/better/happier/etc as a result of it - hope you understand the question. :cool:
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daaah i git miself a lobetamy an now i don be thicking mulch
 
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Joe The Homophobe

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Originally posted by line_in_the_sand
I would love to hear your stories on how you stopped thinking (so much) and got smarter/better/happier/etc as a result of it - hope you understand the question. :cool:
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I went through this. A few years ago I became a worry free person. This radical change in mindset made me more calm/laid back but it didn't make me smarter/happier. I now live with the mentality of living for today, never worrying about the future.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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