"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Don't lend anyone any amount of money unless you can afford to give it to them.
Yup. This is the golden rule.
 

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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

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I'm financially ok. I make 6 figures. She needs it to help her sister to apply for some documents.
 

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skirtChaser said:
If she has collateral, write up a contract, charge her 16% interest, make late payment charges, have it notarized, if she stop paying go to court and have her wages garnished, I've done it several times, mostly with my rentals, if she has her car payed for you can even put your name on her car title and if she stops paying you can take her car. Proceed with caution, do a credit report on her, be ready to collect if she defaults. Make sure you put in the late payment fee and court cost to garnish her wages. Limits to how much interest you can charge but no limits to how much of a "late payment fee".
If she wants to start trading sex for payments I think a good rate for that would be around 30 bucks a blow. On a 5K loan plus interest and fees, that's a lot of kawk sucking.
This is good advice if you can't help but loan a chick money.

Of course anyone seriously considering this needs to read over skirtchaser's post 20 more times and ask themselves if any chick thats not your family member or your wife is really worth all that hassle?
 

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funketekun said:
I'm financially ok. I make 6 figures. She needs it to help her sister to apply for some documents.
If she's coming to her boyfriend for 5 grand then that means her entire family is lazy, stupid, etc.

Go for it if you really want to. But know that smarter men wouldn't even consider it.

But then again, we don't "love our girlfriends..."

:crackup:
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

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funketekun said:
If you have a gf will you lend her 5000 dollars?

I would. She is your gf right?

If she lets you inside her, $5000.00 is nothing.
 

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DonJuan11 said:
I would. She is your gf right?

If she lets you inside her, $5000.00 is nothing.


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That had to be sarcasm, right?

I can't believe you are serious.

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The maximum amount of money that I will lend to a girlfriend is $35 and if I go that far in debt. I will not ask for anymore money. Currently, I had no money for my halloween costume and had to ask her for some money (especially since something happened at the bank that made my paycheck void. Guess I gotta go visit payroll tomorrow).

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DonJuan11 said:
I would. She is your gf right?

If she lets you inside her, $5000.00 is nothing.
I see your point. You see girlfriends as really, really expensive prostitutes.

I think I'll offer yours $5001.
 

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Even I have to say lending money, especially five grand is insane. Ok, you can afford it. However, it still has to be a DAM good reason to lend it. I mean she has to have no other options and something big is on the line (like medical treatment as someone said earlier).

This isn't cynicism on women or even people in general on trusting her with the money. It's practicality. Why do you need to lend her the money? Can't she borrow it from a bank? Or family?

What reason does she need it that much? It better be good or tell her it just too much, money have a way to make a lot problems giving to the hand of others.
 

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I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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For me it would depend on 1. can I afford it easily 2. where does she use it 3.how long have I dated her/how serious it's

I would never lend that much for my short term girlfriend. I would, however, give this for the one im living with. (assuming good reason and no financial hit)
 

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The amount of money shouldn't even be the issue so much as the fact of the matter. Is the person worth whatever you're giving to them? That's what banks and credit card companies do, I don't see why it should be any different this way.

I paid for a girl to get into a movie that we went to the other day. She wanted to go but didn't have enough money and hadn't gotten paid yet. It may have only been a movie, but it was the fact she wanted to go plus I was getting something out of it that made the difference.

What is to be attained/gained by lending her the money? I think that should be the deal breaker.
 

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i'd wager london to a brick the sister's coming into the country and you're being used. $5000 to 'apply for some documents'? Where's she at, Sao Paulo? And you don't love her if you don't lend her the money? What the hell are you doing on this website?
 

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MAYBE your wife, but your girlfriend?? Definitely no. Tell her to get a loan from a bank!! She DOES have a job, doesn't she??
 

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young_gun said:
MAYBE your wife, but your girlfriend?? Definitely no. Tell her to get a loan from a bank!! She DOES have a job, doesn't she??
Personally, I won't lend my wife money. What is mine is generally hers. What is hers is generally mine.
 

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$5000 to a girlfriend?
if she asks, tell her you can buy a hooker for way less than that.
 

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funketekun said:
If you have a gf will you lend her 5000 dollars?
Nope. Maybe if it was a fiancee, and I was rich, and she needed some surgery or something, then I'd consider paying for the surgery. I doubt I'd even do this if it were to pay for a franchise or small business startup.

If your fiancee is running for congress, then maybe. Otherwise, there's no way.

You only do it if you are

1) able to walk away from the relationship.
2) a billionare.
3) able to not be screwed if you don't get it back. Ever.

It's so rare when it's a lending situation. It usually ends up being a giving situation, in the sense that you will NEVER see that money again.
 

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"I don't do that" is my reply when a girl asks me to lend her money.
 

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I guess we'll see you on Judge Judy with her claiming it was a "gift"
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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