"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
lend $5000 to gf
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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This is good advice if you can't help but loan a chick money.skirtChaser said:
Of course anyone seriously considering this needs to read over skirtchaser's post 20 more times and ask themselves if any chick thats not your family member or your wife is really worth all that hassle?
If she's coming to her boyfriend for 5 grand then that means her entire family is lazy, stupid, etc.funketekun said:
Go for it if you really want to. But know that smarter men wouldn't even consider it.
But then again, we don't "love our girlfriends..."
:crackup:
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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This isn't cynicism on women or even people in general on trusting her with the money. It's practicality. Why do you need to lend her the money? Can't she borrow it from a bank? Or family?
What reason does she need it that much? It better be good or tell her it just too much, money have a way to make a lot problems giving to the hand of others.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I would never lend that much for my short term girlfriend. I would, however, give this for the one im living with. (assuming good reason and no financial hit)
I paid for a girl to get into a movie that we went to the other day. She wanted to go but didn't have enough money and hadn't gotten paid yet. It may have only been a movie, but it was the fact she wanted to go plus I was getting something out of it that made the difference.
What is to be attained/gained by lending her the money? I think that should be the deal breaker.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Grand Wizzard Alamar
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if she asks, tell her you can buy a hooker for way less than that.
Nope. Maybe if it was a fiancee, and I was rich, and she needed some surgery or something, then I'd consider paying for the surgery. I doubt I'd even do this if it were to pay for a franchise or small business startup.funketekun said:
If your fiancee is running for congress, then maybe. Otherwise, there's no way.
You only do it if you are
1) able to walk away from the relationship.
2) a billionare.
3) able to not be screwed if you don't get it back. Ever.
It's so rare when it's a lending situation. It usually ends up being a giving situation, in the sense that you will NEVER see that money again.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.