Yup. This is the golden rule.Francisco d'Anconia said:Don't lend anyone any amount of money unless you can afford to give it to them.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Yup. This is the golden rule.Francisco d'Anconia said:Don't lend anyone any amount of money unless you can afford to give it to them.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
This is good advice if you can't help but loan a chick money.skirtChaser said:If she has collateral, write up a contract, charge her 16% interest, make late payment charges, have it notarized, if she stop paying go to court and have her wages garnished, I've done it several times, mostly with my rentals, if she has her car payed for you can even put your name on her car title and if she stops paying you can take her car. Proceed with caution, do a credit report on her, be ready to collect if she defaults. Make sure you put in the late payment fee and court cost to garnish her wages. Limits to how much interest you can charge but no limits to how much of a "late payment fee".
If she wants to start trading sex for payments I think a good rate for that would be around 30 bucks a blow. On a 5K loan plus interest and fees, that's a lot of kawk sucking.
If she's coming to her boyfriend for 5 grand then that means her entire family is lazy, stupid, etc.funketekun said:I'm financially ok. I make 6 figures. She needs it to help her sister to apply for some documents.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
funketekun said:If you have a gf will you lend her 5000 dollars?
DonJuan11 said:I would. She is your gf right?
If she lets you inside her, $5000.00 is nothing.
I see your point. You see girlfriends as really, really expensive prostitutes.DonJuan11 said:I would. She is your gf right?
If she lets you inside her, $5000.00 is nothing.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I did not know you're a npr addict too... huh...penkitten said:http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=15876230
tell her to go there...
or go to www.virginmoney.com
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Personally, I won't lend my wife money. What is mine is generally hers. What is hers is generally mine.young_gun said:MAYBE your wife, but your girlfriend?? Definitely no. Tell her to get a loan from a bank!! She DOES have a job, doesn't she??
Nope. Maybe if it was a fiancee, and I was rich, and she needed some surgery or something, then I'd consider paying for the surgery. I doubt I'd even do this if it were to pay for a franchise or small business startup.funketekun said:If you have a gf will you lend her 5000 dollars?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.