"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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This has nothing to do with H&F, (shoot me down if needs be!) but I've noticed that a few of the UK based H&F regulars seem to live in or be from Leeds. Shaun, MM and myself at least (I was a long time lurker before I decided to post).

I just find it interesting that so many of a seemingly small group (WBA and Quagmire are the only others that come to mind, from the UK) live in, or come from Leeds. What makes this little northern city so popular for fitness buffs and potential DJs?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hmm, well, I'm at uni in Leeds but I lived nearby in Middlesbrough before uni :) I guess it's because Leeds is AWESOME!! and it's so banging with hot girls and night life. Why wouldn't you wanna walk about with good pick up skills and big arms ;)

Hey SAFC, do you go out in Leeds much, me and a few lads from themajesticself.com hit the popular night clubs (Oceana, Gatecrasher, Puro et al) sarging and I wanna meet more Leeds/Yorkshire lads from themajesticself.com etc as well. Fancy coming out with us? Join the board mate.

Hey Shezz, you planning on coming to Leeds anytime soon?

shaun
 

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I'm originally from Co. Durham. My name shows that I'm a football (soccer for the Americans) fan. Smog monster eh? Must be hard picking up women when you have extra body parts :p.

Are you at the uni or the met? I'll join the other board to see what it's like, and I might have a look out with you at some point. I go clubbing in Leeds now and then, although I prefer bar crawls. I've found that it's easier to talk to people in bars, and for me, a girl needs to keep my interest. I need to know a little about her before I put my tongue down her throat! It's no good just being hot. When I've got with girls in clubs and arranged to meet again, I'm not being funny when I say that they've all bored me to tears.

If you have some free time, have a look at the "videos that could change your life" post in DJ Discussion. The philosophies talked about are quite similar to my own, but I always thought they were wrong. Johnny Soporno (he has a **** name, but try to get past that!) rationalises things very well, and I don't feel so wrong about thinking the way I do, now.

I'm generally not the best in clubs, as I'm one for dazzling people with my sparkling wit and personality, and I can't do that in clubs... bit too loud! Still, I'm always up for meeting new people!
 

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Yeah, I reckon it's because Leeds has nothing to do, nor any nice women (they're all in Notts :D ), so you have to turn to gyms.

That said, I love my gym, and my women, i'm just happier in the worlds best city ;)
 

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I live in Leeds, go to uni in London though. I'll be Mr Olympia by the time I'm 30.

MM
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Tom, stfu man, Leeds pwnzz Nottingham in terms of things to do and b1tches!$@"&$£ And besides you're not even in Nottingham, FVCKING MANSFIELD :D

catch ya on msn for a big argument ;)
 

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C'mon now Shaun.....

1) You're not FROM Leeds, you go to uni there.
2) You've never BEEN to Notts.
3) Most of the hot girls in Leeds, are what we sent you.
4) I have a 150kg sqaut.


Just kidding man, it's been a while. Still pimping all the Leeds women? There's a chance I might be coming up there for a year next year, then I'll show you how it's done ;)
 

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Wow, that's pretty cool that you guys actually meet up.
 

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WesCottII said:
C'mon now Shaun.....

1) You're not FROM Leeds, you go to uni there.
2) You've never BEEN to Notts.
3) Most of the hot girls in Leeds, are what we sent you.
4) I have a 150kg sqaut.


Just kidding man, it's been a while. Still pimping all the Leeds women? There's a chance I might be coming up there for a year next year, then I'll show you how it's done ;)
;) I am indeed, I wanna see you down here, me and Tom tearing up Leeds ;)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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