Leaving my family behind

[TheManMasenko]

Just need some insight on my situation/life..you can look at this post for more background info about me: Need some advice...possibly want to move out... | SoSuave Discussion Forum

I'm currently on track to obtain my degree within 2 years which will be able to get me at least $30 an hour. I'm going to stick it out before moving out.

I'm going to be turning 24/25 by the time I graduate and honestly, I just want to get as far away from my family as possible to pursue my dreams of becoming rich and building a big family (six kids) plus travel n f*** some women on the side. Most members of my intermediate family (brother, sister, mom, dad) are not doing much with themselves. A couple of members of my intermediate family members earn good money where if they invested properly, 5-10 years from now they would be comfortable (which means I would not have to worry about their well-being). But instead, they hand out money like it's water and accommodate their vices. It's at the point if they were to all continue on the road by the time I turn 30 (a few years) if not most but all my family members of them will be in a wreck position.

They are not making sacrifices for themselves or their family which will pay dividends in the long run...instead, they all have short-term mindsets and f*** waste time. I know if I skipped the states on them, they'll have some words to say...should I bring up to them that I want to move out immediately after graduating? What's the solution?

 

[TheManMasenko]

I don't feel respected or loved in my household. The relationships I have with my family are poor.

My dad rarely spends time with me, spreads my personal business to people I don't like or talk to and only invites me to spend time with him and his girl, never alone. Then wants to lecture me about how I'm living.

I don't like talking this s**** cuz I feel I'm whining. But I genuinely dislike the relationship I have with him and others in the family. Only I can save myself.

 

[RazorRambo24]

Hey man anything is possible . I'm a testament to that. There's so much I avoid posting to not stunt/flex on people.. and all of this I had never imagined would happen in my life when I was younger. Growing up I didn't make career or finance my priority. Instead I chased the wrong things for the most part.. But what I naturally had was a hustler mindset..

Some flexes I've purposely avoided posting.. but will mention here to motivate you: Recently my brand got a plus 2 invitation to the Met Gala in NYC (Charity Fashion Exhibition hosted by and for one ofthe biggest art museum's in America) just by networking and knowing a bigger international clothing brand.. It was the first time I ever got to see so many models and celebrities in one place.. TO give you an idea of how lucrative it is, its invite only and for the public to buy tickets , a ticket ranges from $30-50k. Public can visit the outside and watch the red carpet but cannot come into the exhibition, where there is a ****tail party and dinner and then the final exhibition of fashion. I got to say hi and hello to models, and celebrities that previously I only seen through a tv/phone screen. I was literally feet away from people that have influence over tens to hundreds of millions of people worldwide. It was quite surreal.

This was all possible because I have a successful womens clothing brand and while its smaller than big brands out there, by networking I got invited to this huge thing. It took me trying and quitting/failing at 6 diff business ventures different things just to find success in this one business.

Now another thing that I wanted to make a post about but didn't because im not here to flex--but might serve as some more motivation for you: I bought my first ever super car (corvette z06). I mean i've had a pretty nice BMW in the past but I bought it used. In between having that M4 and now the z06, I had 2 different camrys and a Hyundai Santa Fe and a pretty average SUV which I still own.. I still miss the Santa Fe.. I cherished it so much.

At the stage I'm at people don't realize how easy life gets .. But they dont know how much work i put in to get here.

--- I want you to know that I started off with really f-ed up circumstances.. Grew up pretty poor in urban environments, got involved in street life/drugs/crime/gangs, my father was barely around, and then when I needed him the most he got sick with Diabetes and was barely active in the lives of myself and my brother. I dropped out of highschool and even though I started college super late at 25, i was so far behind in math that it hindered my path and I eventually put it on hold to focus on working and business.

I think you're on a great track. I didn't even go to college till I was 25. I think you should practice b eing more grateful for what you have because I feel like you're headed toward some good things. Instead of blaming your family for their faults.. Learn to appreciate them and don't rush moving out.. Take your time and when you're ready, you'll know.

 

[2rings]

Dear OP
I think you posted some healthy observations.
When you get a little older, those observations about how wacky your parents and family are will become amplified into an even more sickly and realistic version of the truth.

I am probably a good 10 or more years older than you and recently realized my parents are kind of lazy and uncaring, uninvolved, and they are truly stupid about a lot of important things.

On the other hand they still have some decent halfassed advice.

So my advice is to learn to establish mature Boundaries. There is a newer book about boundaries out there somewhere. It’s worthwhile to read.

Learn to take breaks away from parents and family.

You will get out of there. Man it is hard with parents sometimes.

I’d devise a way to ask them a way to just gift you money to escape and go off on your own.

Parents are a lot like a business transaction that is highly personalized and finicky.

You need to gtf out of there but unless your family truly is outright unbelievably abusive, then your relationship can change a ton just by exiting their house and immediate sphere.

Be on your own.

I’d think of ways to legit have a solid plan and ask the P’s for money so you can mthfkn leave.