"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Think of it like an adventurer, like Indy Jones. He has great friends in the places he's been to, but when the adventure in one place is over, he's off to seek a new one, waving goodbye to his friends. Occasionally in his new adventures, he may bump into them again and they're still great friends (or foes, in some cases), but he doesn't have to hang out with them all the bloody time!
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Though if he's truly a downer and making you depressed then I'd say its definitely time to cut the chord.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
yeah, pretty much where it's at. He hates people, has a horrible tempter, just doesn't like life. A couple weeks ago we were near a bar. I told him we should both go in there and see what it's like, he freaked out and came up with all these reasons that we didn't belong, we weren't rich, weren't driving BMWs so they would kick us out... it was just a nice upscale bar. No one cared.KontrollerX said:
I should have done this a long time ago. I'm not going to cut him out of my life completely, but I have to stop expecting him to be the guy I go out and get crazy with. He just isn't willing to experience new things. Sucks, but people change.
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I had a friend like that yrs ago. There was this MILF hangout on Long Island which typically attracted wealthy older men(40's-50's). Whenever I would suggest we go to this place, he'd say, "I feel funny, all these guys are older than us and are rich dudes, I feel out of place". Such a defeatist attitude. Very insecure guy. And if anything, this guy blended right in, as he was preppy to the bone, meanwhile if anyone stood out, it was probably me, dressed as a rocker with long hair. I did pretty good at this place, the 2 times that I went. Was approached by 2 hot women, one of which was a sexy MILF who was with her sexy MILF sister, lol, who also was hitting on me, as she ran her fingers through my long locks and told me how I was hot.reset said:
Rollo Tomassi
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Law 10: Infection: Avoid the Unhappy and Unlucky
You can die from someone else's misery— emotional states are as infectious as diseases. You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster. The unfortunate sometimes draw misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you. Associate with the happy and fortunate instead.
Yeah that stuff ages your early. Actually, I guess I prefer going out alone anyway. I still get nervous going out without a friend along to lean on, but I also have a lot of freedom. I hit it off with a chick from the bar a few weeks ago, went to her apartment (then she had a panic attack and kicked me out, lol) but I never could have done that if I had to babysit my friend at the same time.
This has been going on for years, we've both decided we were going to set the bar low, not challenge each other, and just hide from life. Last few months I've decided I'm not going to live like that anymore. He's a good person but he is negative, angry, and these are qualities I don't have as much as I used to. So this drifting apart is probably natural.
That's what's happening here. Glad you don't blame them.slaog said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.