"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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leaving 15-20 min after sex

blueline

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So, I have a ****buddy setup going on now. I have never done this before. I have big problems with giving away affection and then developing feelings for a girl.

I can **** without emotional attachment, but it's the cuddling that hurts me. So, what do I do? Keep the cuddling to a minimum of 10-15 minutes and then just walk away?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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PectoralisMajor

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Do whatever you like.

if she's a f&ck buddy, she will understand you have to go and f*ck someone else right?
 

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blueline said:
So, I have a ****buddy setup going on now. I have never done this before. I have big problems with giving away affection and then developing feelings for a girl.

I can **** without emotional attachment, but it's the cuddling that hurts me. So, what do I do? Keep the cuddling to a minimum of 10-15 minutes and then just walk away?
Cuddling is an Oxycontin thing that develops attachment. Don't do it if you only want to keep it an informal FB/FWB relationship. I'm trying to find the Roissy article that talks about it atm.


EDIT
Not the article I'm looking for, but it kinda touches on the underlying point:

http://roissy.wordpress.com/2010/03/09/a-fail-safe-way-to-get-hand/
 

IamJosan

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You don't have to cuddle. Just do what I do. Look at the time, then say "Wow it's late I gotta go." Then you leave and everything is cool. :)
 

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i never used to leave that early next morning. mostly.

but then again i would get up to take a piss and she would ask where i was going. lol
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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When I was a teenager I loved this girl for years and only got her once and she made me leave after. Then years later I slept with her again and I left 15 minutes later. She never got over it. That was 9 years ago and she still to this day is in love with me.

"Under my thumb, the girl who once pushed me around".
 
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