"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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leaving 15-20 min after sex

blueline

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So, I have a ****buddy setup going on now. I have never done this before. I have big problems with giving away affection and then developing feelings for a girl.

I can **** without emotional attachment, but it's the cuddling that hurts me. So, what do I do? Keep the cuddling to a minimum of 10-15 minutes and then just walk away?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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PectoralisMajor

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Do whatever you like.

if she's a f&ck buddy, she will understand you have to go and f*ck someone else right?
 

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blueline said:
So, I have a ****buddy setup going on now. I have never done this before. I have big problems with giving away affection and then developing feelings for a girl.

I can **** without emotional attachment, but it's the cuddling that hurts me. So, what do I do? Keep the cuddling to a minimum of 10-15 minutes and then just walk away?
Cuddling is an Oxycontin thing that develops attachment. Don't do it if you only want to keep it an informal FB/FWB relationship. I'm trying to find the Roissy article that talks about it atm.


EDIT
Not the article I'm looking for, but it kinda touches on the underlying point:

http://roissy.wordpress.com/2010/03/09/a-fail-safe-way-to-get-hand/
 

IamJosan

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You don't have to cuddle. Just do what I do. Look at the time, then say "Wow it's late I gotta go." Then you leave and everything is cool. :)
 

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i never used to leave that early next morning. mostly.

but then again i would get up to take a piss and she would ask where i was going. lol
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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When I was a teenager I loved this girl for years and only got her once and she made me leave after. Then years later I slept with her again and I left 15 minutes later. She never got over it. That was 9 years ago and she still to this day is in love with me.

"Under my thumb, the girl who once pushed me around".
 
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