"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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learning must be a hard task?

GREAT WHITE SHARK

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why the learning process is always painful?

to learn to get girls you must be rejected a lot
to learn to make money you must loose money
to learn to walk you must fall
to learn to have sex you get really nervous
to learn to ride a car the chances are big that you can hit
etc..

Is there another way of learning?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Centaurion

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nope
 

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Yeah, its called sitting on the couch complaining about why you never get laid, never pick up, never make money ;)
 

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Experience is the best teacher.

To go biblical for a second, God told Adam and Eve not to eat from that tree, but they did anyway. In that case "information wasn't enough", experience can be much more painful.

As for that comment on getting rejected when talking to women, I've talked to a few that I assume I'm on good terms with and sometimes I still get that wide-eyed:eek: "What does he want from me" look.:rolleyes:
 

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Originally posted by GREAT WHITE SHARK

to learn to make money you must loose money

Is there another way of learning?

LOSE, for the love of G-d. You're right, learning must be hard. Learn to spell.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Everytime you're going to learn, you're going to have to take some risks. You can mitigate the risks by taking things slower but at some point you've got to do whatever it is you want to do.

parachuters for example take ground classes first, and their first jump is with an experience partner.

so if you're worried about the risks, mitigate them, but don't give up altogether.
 

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No, it doesn't have to be a hard task.

This here is the main reason why organized people succeed more than disorganized people.

It's not that they're smarter, but organized people pace themselves better. So if Disorganized Dan has to read a difficult chemistry textbook, he'll throw himself into it until he gets tired and frustrated, then he'll quit and not come back to it.

Organized Ollie on the other hand, will say, "This is a hard textbook.". He'll break his reading into sections, or even paragraphs and work on those subunits until he understands them. Between subunits, he might take breaks to refresh his energy. So his last memory when he gets up is for successfully completing a subunit, and he'll come to it with more energy as he goes on. Plus he'll be tracking his progress with a list or something on paper, so at a glance he can tell that he's actually doing something.
 

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Re: Re: learning must be a hard task?

Originally posted by MsThang
LOSE, for the love of G-d. You're right, learning must be hard. Learn to spell.
Why don't go f*ck yourself instead of contributing to the f*cking thread?
What if he's foreigner? Did you think about that? Is he obligated to f*cking write correctly, when most american native users write like dumb f*ckers?

F*ck off
 

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Read the second quote in my signature.
 

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The way i look at it is it's like making money. Thank god it is hard, somewhat painful an not instantaneous.

All I've got going for me is the ability to do these things for the things I want and the majority don't.

Ironically the more you do it, the less painful and the more enjoyable it is.
 
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