"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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learning must be a hard task?

GREAT WHITE SHARK

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why the learning process is always painful?

to learn to get girls you must be rejected a lot
to learn to make money you must loose money
to learn to walk you must fall
to learn to have sex you get really nervous
to learn to ride a car the chances are big that you can hit
etc..

Is there another way of learning?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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nope
 

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Yeah, its called sitting on the couch complaining about why you never get laid, never pick up, never make money ;)
 

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Experience is the best teacher.

To go biblical for a second, God told Adam and Eve not to eat from that tree, but they did anyway. In that case "information wasn't enough", experience can be much more painful.

As for that comment on getting rejected when talking to women, I've talked to a few that I assume I'm on good terms with and sometimes I still get that wide-eyed:eek: "What does he want from me" look.:rolleyes:
 

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Originally posted by GREAT WHITE SHARK

to learn to make money you must loose money

Is there another way of learning?

LOSE, for the love of G-d. You're right, learning must be hard. Learn to spell.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Everytime you're going to learn, you're going to have to take some risks. You can mitigate the risks by taking things slower but at some point you've got to do whatever it is you want to do.

parachuters for example take ground classes first, and their first jump is with an experience partner.

so if you're worried about the risks, mitigate them, but don't give up altogether.
 

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No, it doesn't have to be a hard task.

This here is the main reason why organized people succeed more than disorganized people.

It's not that they're smarter, but organized people pace themselves better. So if Disorganized Dan has to read a difficult chemistry textbook, he'll throw himself into it until he gets tired and frustrated, then he'll quit and not come back to it.

Organized Ollie on the other hand, will say, "This is a hard textbook.". He'll break his reading into sections, or even paragraphs and work on those subunits until he understands them. Between subunits, he might take breaks to refresh his energy. So his last memory when he gets up is for successfully completing a subunit, and he'll come to it with more energy as he goes on. Plus he'll be tracking his progress with a list or something on paper, so at a glance he can tell that he's actually doing something.
 

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Re: Re: learning must be a hard task?

Originally posted by MsThang
LOSE, for the love of G-d. You're right, learning must be hard. Learn to spell.
Why don't go f*ck yourself instead of contributing to the f*cking thread?
What if he's foreigner? Did you think about that? Is he obligated to f*cking write correctly, when most american native users write like dumb f*ckers?

F*ck off
 

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Read the second quote in my signature.
 

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right on BBB
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The way i look at it is it's like making money. Thank god it is hard, somewhat painful an not instantaneous.

All I've got going for me is the ability to do these things for the things I want and the majority don't.

Ironically the more you do it, the less painful and the more enjoyable it is.
 
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