"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Learning from your experiences will lead to passivity and weakness.

Veréngárda

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Every ****ing time the concept of learning from my actions and adapting was introduced to me, it was a way of telling me to be more passive, to not try, to not speak up.

This "every failure is a lesson" bull**** disgusts me.. especially since it comes from successful people.. successful people who are telling the people around them to be weaker under the guise of giving advice.

I feel like real advice would be to ignore your failures. Take them in stride. All "learning from it" does is make you walk a 20 foot circle around the failure so that it doesn't happen again.

And before you know it, you're spineless and pathetic and nothing is getting done.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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It's better to be dumb.
 

Veréngárda

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@Veréngárda - I wonder what's happened in your life that's made you so angry and bitter.
Being treated like a punk as a youngin for having traits that I'm now trying to get back.. being the scapegoat of my family because I wasn't interested in reflecting perfectly on them with every breath I took.. and my family's connections meaning that treatment bled into my relationships with my peers growing up.

I have another post lined up about how middle children need to shut the **** up about their non-existent "problems."

"I never got mommy's attentio-"
You don't ****ing want it, now enjoy the personality you were actually allowed to develop.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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