"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Learning from your experiences will lead to passivity and weakness.

Veréngárda

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Every ****ing time the concept of learning from my actions and adapting was introduced to me, it was a way of telling me to be more passive, to not try, to not speak up.

This "every failure is a lesson" bull**** disgusts me.. especially since it comes from successful people.. successful people who are telling the people around them to be weaker under the guise of giving advice.

I feel like real advice would be to ignore your failures. Take them in stride. All "learning from it" does is make you walk a 20 foot circle around the failure so that it doesn't happen again.

And before you know it, you're spineless and pathetic and nothing is getting done.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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It's better to be dumb.
 
Veréngárda

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DoubleBarrel said:
@Veréngárda - I wonder what's happened in your life that's made you so angry and bitter.
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Being treated like a punk as a youngin for having traits that I'm now trying to get back.. being the scapegoat of my family because I wasn't interested in reflecting perfectly on them with every breath I took.. and my family's connections meaning that treatment bled into my relationships with my peers growing up.

I have another post lined up about how middle children need to shut the **** up about their non-existent "problems."

"I never got mommy's attentio-"
You don't ****ing want it, now enjoy the personality you were actually allowed to develop.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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