"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Learning Disabilities

ItsOnNow

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A few years ago,I was officially diagnosed with having a learning dissability. I think this may explain some of the problems I have had over the years,especially socially. Im also sure I have add,and I have been taking ritalin,which has helped. I have noticed when I am at work, I am more drivne energetic person.

Does anyone else have a similar problem,and if so,how have you overcame it and turned it around?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Skel

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I have ADD. I use to smoke a lot of pot, it made me feel better. I think it was a chemical imabalance or something. I dont know....I dont take meds now. I'm fine.

Socially I always had a lot of anxiety. I grew out of it with age.
 

wolf116

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I'm dyslexic, ADD and have social anxiety.
I joined this forum to improve my english skills.
Just find useful and interesting things to read on the net and in books.

It's like weight training with poor genitics, you just need to work twice as hard as most people.
 

kabatura

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I was diagnosed with ADD as a kid and took ritalin in middle school. It killed my appetite and made me tired all the time, so I stopped taking it. It seems to me that the idea of someone who doesn't have ADD is just a really boring person.

Of course ADD isn't a dibilitating thing. I could see dyslexia being a much bigger problem as would lots of other things. I consider ADD a personality enhancer.
 

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At my university, the head counselor told me that under the law, having a high IQ and bad grades is proof of a learning disability. That's all it takes. Therefore, I've been "disabled" my entire life and never noticed!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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