"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Learning Disabilities

ItsOnNow

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A few years ago,I was officially diagnosed with having a learning dissability. I think this may explain some of the problems I have had over the years,especially socially. Im also sure I have add,and I have been taking ritalin,which has helped. I have noticed when I am at work, I am more drivne energetic person.

Does anyone else have a similar problem,and if so,how have you overcame it and turned it around?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Skel

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I have ADD. I use to smoke a lot of pot, it made me feel better. I think it was a chemical imabalance or something. I dont know....I dont take meds now. I'm fine.

Socially I always had a lot of anxiety. I grew out of it with age.
 

wolf116

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I'm dyslexic, ADD and have social anxiety.
I joined this forum to improve my english skills.
Just find useful and interesting things to read on the net and in books.

It's like weight training with poor genitics, you just need to work twice as hard as most people.
 

kabatura

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I was diagnosed with ADD as a kid and took ritalin in middle school. It killed my appetite and made me tired all the time, so I stopped taking it. It seems to me that the idea of someone who doesn't have ADD is just a really boring person.

Of course ADD isn't a dibilitating thing. I could see dyslexia being a much bigger problem as would lots of other things. I consider ADD a personality enhancer.
 

Bible_Belt

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At my university, the head counselor told me that under the law, having a high IQ and bad grades is proof of a learning disability. That's all it takes. Therefore, I've been "disabled" my entire life and never noticed!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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