"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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LDRs. Making her want you more

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in this instance,

just break it off with her. She does NOT want you. Women do not argue unless they are unhappy with something.

She just fed you a load of bullcrap the size of mount Everest.

This does not sound like a healthy relationship, it sounds more like it is on life-support with her (or both of you) wanting to pull the plug. Just let it end because there is a lot of better girls out there for you.

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Comic_relief what did she argue with me about?
 
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maybe I read it wrong but most girls that sound like that usually are just saying that so they are not the ones that break up with each the other person. They don't ever want to feel bad about anything.

Thats just what I got from the posts that I have read up to this point. I'm not there though, so I don't know how she said it or anything.

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Another friend came forward and told me that my GF told her the same thing. I sent her a text and she replied saying some **** about how she had some 2nd thoughts at first, but wanted to give it a chance and that she doesn't want me to break up.

Within 5 minutes of that she sends another one saying something like "all this is making me reconsider, you go around asking all my friends what I want. How do they know what's going on in my head".

I told her I'm done talking about it and that I want us to be completely honest and stop going to other people about our problems.
 
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Wow... man, in a few weeks, something tells me you'll be looking back at this and laughing. You're getting so worked up over nothing, honestly. Just break it off. It isn't worth all of the stress you're putting yourself through.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I agree with Mr. Rogers on this one. The worst thing that a man can do is hold onto a woman that is letting go.

Let her go and find another one in the sea. I went out with my LDLTR and I never needed to ask for advice. I did not have these types of problems either.

Please just take yourself outside of the situation. Look at how annoyed you are right now at this girl.

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Before you guys posted your latest posts, I sent her a text after about 2 hours of no contact saying "you know you're right, I should of just came to you. I'm a jackass".

She replied with, "I'm going to Canada for the weekend, don't know if I'll get cell service there".

To which I replied, "All right, have fun. Call me sometime if you want to".

The final text she sends says, "Sure".

I'm almost positive I put the nail in the coffin myself, so I'm just gonna see where it goes from here. I can pretty much garauntee it's over now. I can see what you guys were saying about LDRs being pointless, but when you like a girl this much before she leaves you hear the advice but you just don't want to believe it.
 
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itishe said:
I can see what you guys were saying about LDRs being pointless, but when you like a girl this much before she leaves you hear the advice but you just don't want to believe it.
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I have to give you a word of advice about LDR's. They are not for the faint of heart. LDR's are very hard and most of the time very lonely. You must realize it takes a special group of people to be able to survive one.

Don't worry though, it is a good learning experience and go find some other girls that will be better for you.

good luck

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