Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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LDRs. Making her want you more

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in this instance,

just break it off with her. She does NOT want you. Women do not argue unless they are unhappy with something.

She just fed you a load of bullcrap the size of mount Everest.

This does not sound like a healthy relationship, it sounds more like it is on life-support with her (or both of you) wanting to pull the plug. Just let it end because there is a lot of better girls out there for you.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Comic_relief what did she argue with me about?
 

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maybe I read it wrong but most girls that sound like that usually are just saying that so they are not the ones that break up with each the other person. They don't ever want to feel bad about anything.

Thats just what I got from the posts that I have read up to this point. I'm not there though, so I don't know how she said it or anything.

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Another friend came forward and told me that my GF told her the same thing. I sent her a text and she replied saying some **** about how she had some 2nd thoughts at first, but wanted to give it a chance and that she doesn't want me to break up.

Within 5 minutes of that she sends another one saying something like "all this is making me reconsider, you go around asking all my friends what I want. How do they know what's going on in my head".

I told her I'm done talking about it and that I want us to be completely honest and stop going to other people about our problems.
 

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Wow... man, in a few weeks, something tells me you'll be looking back at this and laughing. You're getting so worked up over nothing, honestly. Just break it off. It isn't worth all of the stress you're putting yourself through.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I agree with Mr. Rogers on this one. The worst thing that a man can do is hold onto a woman that is letting go.

Let her go and find another one in the sea. I went out with my LDLTR and I never needed to ask for advice. I did not have these types of problems either.

Please just take yourself outside of the situation. Look at how annoyed you are right now at this girl.

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Before you guys posted your latest posts, I sent her a text after about 2 hours of no contact saying "you know you're right, I should of just came to you. I'm a jackass".

She replied with, "I'm going to Canada for the weekend, don't know if I'll get cell service there".

To which I replied, "All right, have fun. Call me sometime if you want to".

The final text she sends says, "Sure".

I'm almost positive I put the nail in the coffin myself, so I'm just gonna see where it goes from here. I can pretty much garauntee it's over now. I can see what you guys were saying about LDRs being pointless, but when you like a girl this much before she leaves you hear the advice but you just don't want to believe it.
 

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itishe said:
I can see what you guys were saying about LDRs being pointless, but when you like a girl this much before she leaves you hear the advice but you just don't want to believe it.
I have to give you a word of advice about LDR's. They are not for the faint of heart. LDR's are very hard and most of the time very lonely. You must realize it takes a special group of people to be able to survive one.

Don't worry though, it is a good learning experience and go find some other girls that will be better for you.

good luck

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