"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Last night while watching the game @ a bar...

TheLadiesMan

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First, congrats to my Redskins!!! GO SKINS!!!! :)

...while I was sitting there, there was a couple to my left, and I noticed that the woman was watching me out of the corner of her eye. She was very beautiful, very professional looking, and looked like a borderline freak to me.
Anyway, I cracked some jokes, she laughed, all the while I just wanted to throw her on the bar and tear her up.
After some time, she got up, told her guy "friend" she was leaving. I have to admit, I was kinda disappointed I didn't stop to get her number, but I don't usually ask for numbers, which is something I gotta do more of. I mean, my Skins won, my Indians won, and my Browns won so I was feeln pretty horny, and would have turned this woman on her head.
So after she leaves, and I'm chillin there drinking my beer and watching the game, the guy"friend" that the woman was with, who hasn't left yet, turns to me and says, "Dude... the woman who was sitting here with me, just called to ask me, to ask YOU, for a cigarette." ....? ...I was like, "..is she out in the parking lot?" he says "No... she's home, and wants me to run the cigarette to her...." I was like "Wha?....." ...and he says "Yeah, can you believe that?" ....I offer to give him a smoke, and he tells me he's just going to go and pick up a pack, and drop it off to her." Which had me shaking my head a little.....

But THIS, is how my sex life has been lately. If I could figure out what to do, instead of just letting it come to me, I'd probably get laid more often. lol!

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Did I miss it? I'm confused. Was he gonna go back and bang her? Why the hell would she ask him to ask you for a cigarette?

And you get horny when your team wins a game? Remind me never to watch a sporting event with you around.
 

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Yes, when my team wins I get horny. When I run into some money, I get horny too. Strange huh? ...and when women who have been drinking, want to take me home with them, also makes me horny. :)

Come to think about it... if the wind blows just right between my legs, I get horny. :)

I get horny... don't hate. :)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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He probably noticed you noticing her looking at you, and wanted to make an excuse up.
 

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Hey I live in Columbus Ohio too. What bar did this happen at? You can PM me. I can't believe you're a Cleveland fan!
 

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this is how attention hors work. they create just enough drama out of NOTHING, to get otherwise normal guys worked up enough about it to post questions on message boards. why do we feel our "horniest" around attention hors? that is one for the ages.
 

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persistent exaction said:
this is how attention hors work. they create just enough drama out of NOTHING, to get otherwise normal guys worked up enough about it to post questions on message boards. why do we feel our "horniest" around attention hors? that is one for the ages.
She was attempting to spark some interest in The Ladies Man and connect with him thru the cigarette pretext.
She could hardly just call her chump friend and say, "' Hey friend, ask that Ladies Man guy to come around and do me."
No, no -that is NOT how women do things , they operate COVERTLY --thru the side entrance - under the radar -whatever.They get other people to take their risks for them and run their errands..
She did not want a cigarette, IF she did she could have just bought some at the 7 Eleven or at the bar ,or she could have asked the chump she was sitting with to bring her some on his way home.

She wanted to appear that she was asking for a cigarette but she really wanted Ladies Guy to come a'callin'...

A missed opportunity , man.
 

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lol I think LadiesMan, lost out to the friend she was with..LadiesMan did all the work setting her up and getting her in the mood....

and her friend bringing the cigarettes (cause a good smoke after a long night of sex is enjoyable) reaped the benefits !! I wouldn't be surprised if he made that up and used your failure as opportunity to nail her...Matter of fact that makes much more sense !! haha

Nice work Ladies-woman !!!

If I could figure out what to do, instead of just letting it come to me, I'd probably get laid more often. lol!

Advises anyone?
GROW SOME BALLS..
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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