"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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gonnamakeit

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Starts June 15th

Just post if you wanna join and what you want to get out of the bootcamp.
So far the members are
gonnamakeit
pimp2b
jbcallin88
newandimproved
coffin
moon-wolf
little italy
adam b
suaveplayer
darles chickens
lloyd
big poppa
senor juan
get ready
i'm in the mood
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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scrouds

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Ok, I need to do one of these bootcamps. I want to join. I want to open my eyes, come out of the social box I've built around myself.

I'm usually all talk and think I have a good foothold on theory. I just have trouble pushing it out into the real world. I've always held that there are 4 stages to understanding.

1) Knowing someone out in the world can do something.
2) Understanding that you, individually and as yourself, can do it.
3) Truly believing that you can do it, on demand
4) Actually going out and doing it.

I'm stuck at 3. I'm hoping the bootcamp cam remove the wall I have between 3 and 4.

Let me know what I need to do.
 
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gonnamakeit

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gonnamakeit
pimp2b
jbcallin88
newandimproved
coffin
moon-wolf
little italy
adam b
suaveplayer
darles chickens
lloyd
big poppa
senor juan
get ready
i'm in the mood
get with it
blue hanger
scrouds

Lookin awesome, 2 more days to sign up!
 
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djinhell

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Hmmm, I think doing this bootcamp will do me the world of good!!

count me in!! :up:

DJ IN HELL
 
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djinhell

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Oh, and what I expect to get out of it:-

Personal growth, and real confidence. I no longer want to feel intimated in social situations by anyone..male or female.

I feel I have the potential to be a smooth DJ, but just need the push to get out there and put it to practice.

Like scrouds said above, I too have a good foothold in the theory...time for some practical!!! :cool:

DJ IN HELL
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Maxtro

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What the hell I'll join this thing.

I need to improve in so many ways there isn't any point in listing them.
 
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