You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Thanks for your recomendations Donovan. I really appreciate it!donovan said:I've reviewed alot of his material and have a senior coach of his named Sean, writing a regular column on my blog.
I would say... depends on what you're looking for.
I recommend for pickup... Mystery.
I recommend for overall game... David D.
I recommend for a unique blend of pickup/overall game... Lance and Pickup101.
I recommend for overall pickup and life success... Stephen Nash.
I've met all of those guys, spare David D. I would say, they're all pros, very confident and obviously successful with women. You can't go wrong with most. (Although if you don't have an outcome... then you'll be wasting your time)
I say, it depends on what you're outcome is.... if you want to have sex with random girls... Mystery. Want relationships and a natural, confident lifestyle? Stephen Nash. Like a blend that will give you some elements of both? Pickup101
Good luck. If you have questions, I've looked at pretty much all of Lance's material, glad to help.
Thanks Everywomanshero! I appreciate your input!everywomanshero said:The thing I like about Lance is that he is very positive and cautious about what he publishes. If someone has a tendency to be negative, I think his materials will have a big boost for them.
With Mystery Method as a new student you have to remember that Mystery has an amazing a positive vibe. There are some real weirdos out there who take his ideas and make them negative... like they have gotten the idea that Mystery acts 'mean and nasty' to chicks and that makes them comply when they act *****y. I guess it stems from an overarching misinterpretation of certain disqualifiers.
Same with Swinggcat, his material is great, but there are certain parts that some guys have perceived to mean that being rude or arrogant will make hawtees want them. I have not seen the guys who perceive things this way to have any real success with women. I think they were "too far gone" to be saved before swinggcats material ever found them. LOL.
In short, I think there is a lot of great stuff out there just always assume that everything is done in a postive light and you'll come off for the better.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
some new names(from 2006) to researchLance and Pickup101
I've reviewed alot of his material and have a senior coach of his named Sean, writing a regular column on my blog.
I would say... depends on what you're looking for.
I recommend for pickup... Mystery.
I recommend for overall game... David D.
I recommend for a unique blend of pickup/overall game... Lance and Pickup101.
I recommend for overall pickup and life success... Stephen Nash.
I've met all of those guys, spare David D. I would say, they're all pros, very confident and obviously successful with women. You can't go wrong with most. (Although if you don't have an outcome... then you'll be wasting your time)
I say, it depends on what you're outcome is.... if you want to have sex with random girls... Mystery. Want relationships and a natural, confident lifestyle? Stephen Nash. Like a blend that will give you some elements of both? Pickup101
Good luck. If you have questions, I've looked at pretty much all of Lance's material, glad to help.