"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Lamenating on all my short relationships

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I've had a few GF's. I'm 21yrs old and the longest I was ever able to hold a GF for was a lengthy:)rolleyes: ) 2 months. I've never been able to dump a girl coz they all got around to ditching me first. Now this is bothering me, WTF is up with me? I made all my ex's laugh, but one thing I've heard at least one time from all of them is that:

"You're an odd one.."
"You're a little weird" and
"You're strange you know that.."

WTF is up with me being 21yrs old and only being able to hold a relationship for 8 weeks tops(usually just around the 4 week mark with most of them, fvcked them all though)

I think I might have some boderline personality disorder or something, and I've been lamenating on the claims of being called "odd" at one stage from my ex'es. I don't know if that's a good or bad thing, I've never been brazen enough to ask for fear of what I might here. For once I'd like to be the one that gets to dump a GF.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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usually just around the 4 week mark with most of them, fvcked them all though
Try fvcking them without the role play / cosplay scenario for a while and then introduce it slowly into the relationship?

Sorry for the sarcasm but without more detail it's hard to respond constructively, and we're left to invent reasons.

It can't be a major character flaw though or they would have spotted it sooner.
 

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Hmm more detail. I dunno what else I can say.. Although I find what most chicks(or people for that matter) think is funny to be fvcking stupid and lame. My sense of humour is an aquirred taste I guess.

I got strange interests I guess, alot of people find morbid.
Try fvcking them without the role play / cosplay scenario for a while and then introduce it slowly into the relationship?
Err I don't get that one dude. lol.
 

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Just messing with you, I saw your comment that you had ****ed them all before they finished it, so I was teasing you about some made up fetish you might have.

What sort of things are you into then? (I don't mean sexually, before you go into any detail!)

What tv shows do you like, what sort of magazines do you buy that sort of thing.
 

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a woman calling YOU odd? that's a twist.

think of it this way at least your are getting experience and you must have some kind of game plan that works. Get more experience, learn from it and then move forward. If you have any doubts that things arent working out next her. protect your heart.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What sort of things are you into then? What tv shows do you like, what sort of magazines do you buy that sort of thing
Hmm true crime. Shows like Law and Order SVU, CSI, crime biographies, real life execution tapes, Guns and knifes mags. Firearms etc Along with the usual hobbies like moto X riding(love it)



and you must have some kind of game plan that works.
Not really actually, I'm usually pretty quite. Not to sound like I have my head up my own ass I think my boyish cute looks sorta get me in the door, but my personality makes them leave just as quick :( If you search my name you can find a thread I started about my looks that has pics of me included.
 

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If you have any doubts that things arent working out next her. protect your heart.
Yeah good idea dude, for *most* of my STR's I *thought* things were going well, then BAM, like lightning outta a clear blue sky I get a phone call with the ol "things aren't really working out between us anymore Will" speach.

I'm working on myself for the moment, not really looking for girls after I tried to top myself about 2 weeks ago. I got **** to sort out, but some of this **** is about my patheticly short relationships. Common denominator is me.
 

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Not into biker chicks? Sounds like they'd be right up your street.

What kind of girls do you go for?
 

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Man I know the old 2 month and out drill. It sucks. I can't tell you what to do on that. I'm 31 and it still happens sometimes.
 

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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