"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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15 August 2011

Its been a long time since I did BPs and DLs. Wasn't suprised when I dropped 10lbs on bench presses.

3x5 Squats 125lbs
3x5 Bench Press 75lbs
1x5 Deadlift 140lbs

Some buff dude was talking behind my back about how he could lift those 'pu55y weights' more than I could. True but his fvcking ego was uncalled for. i left the gym pissed.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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17 August 2011

3x5 Squats 125lbs (stopped at last set 3rd rep)
3x5 Standing Military Press 55lbs
3x5 Bent BB Rows 90lbs (poor form)

Finished presses with 2min rest intervals. Gonna up the weight next week. For squats I felt I wasn't ready for the 20kg plates yet so I decided to increase intensity by reducing my rest time from 2min30secs to 2min15secs. Could've completed it but I lost focus after the 3rd rep.

For BB Rows I suspect my form is way of. I'm going to take 20lbs off the next workout to nail the form and slowly climb up again with proper form.
 

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19 August 2011

3x5 Squats 125lbs
3x5 Bench Press 80lbs
1x5 Deadlifts 145lbs
2x5 Dips

Added accessory work to help me progress better in my presses. Will be doing chin ups next workout as well. I don't know lol but I feel that I'm mentally unprepared to take on 20kg plates on my squats...something that I have to get rid of.

20 August 2011

Weigh in today, gained 0.2lbs ugh.
 

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22 August 2011

3x5 Standing Military Press 60lbs
3x5 Bent BB Rows 65lbs

I felt kinda uneasy in my left knee today so I decided not to work on squats lest I injure myself again. Still focusing on Bent Row form, have to start from scratch again at 50lbs to nail my form.
 

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24 August 2011

3x5 Squats 135lbs
3x5 Bench Press 85lbs
1x5 Deadlift 150lbs
2x5 Dips (Trying to work up to 8 reps per set)

My right hand is starting to lose grip on the bar during deadlifts, don't know whether I should start using an alternate grip.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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26 August 2011

3x5 Squats 140lbs
3x5 Standing Military Press 65lbs (yay!)
3x5 Bent Rows 60lbs (focusing on form)
2x5 Chin-ups (trying to work up to 8)

Feels good bros.
 

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27 August 2011

Weigh-in today, 113lbs
 

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29 August 2011

It's been 12 weeks since I started SS (this being the 13th). I was feeling quite burnt out just now, my lifts went down by quite a few pounds. Will be taking 1 week break for my body to recover and start hitting the weights again.

Week 12:

Squats 3x5 140lbs
Bench Press 3x5 85lbs
Deadlift 1x5 150lbs
Standing Military Press 3x5 65lbs
Bent BB Rows 3x5 60lbs
 

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5 September 2011

Never thought that a 1 week break could leave me winded when I continued lifting. Decided to take it light before coming back up to speed.

Squats 3x5 130lbs
Bench Press 3x5 75lbs
Deadlift 1x5 135lbs
 

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7 Sept 2011

Military Press 3x5 65lbs
Bent BB Rows 3x5 60lbs
Skipped squats because a sausagefest was going on there. Bunch of douchey guys hogging the rack.

9 Sept 2011

Squats 3x5 135lbs
Bench Press 3x5 85lbs
Deadlift 1x5 140lbs
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Its been a rough week for me trying to balance study, exams and workouts. Hence the lack of updates.

13 Sept 2011: Mantainence work (no time for proper gym)

3x5 Military Press 65lbs
3x5 Bent BB Rows 65lbs

15 Sept 2011
3x5 Squats 135lbs
3x5 Bench Press 90lbs
1x5 Deadlift 145lbs
2x8 Assisted Dips
 

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16 September 2011

Its been a hectic week, didn't have to time to hit the gym today so I had to settlr for my gym downstairs. (No pull up bar, no squat rack)

3x5 Military Press (68lbs 5,3 65lbs 3)
3x5 Bent BB Rows 70lbs
2x8 Pulldowns (pronated grip) 70lbs

On the brightside, I've gained another 1.4lbs this week, 114-115 now
 

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21 Sept 2011

Missed workouts due to hectic hours at school. I find that my squats can't progress if I miss even 1 session of squats. Probably as things get settled down in school I'll be able to plan my workouts after school hours.

3x5 Squats 135lbs
3x5 Military Press 65lbs (2min rest instead of usual 3)
3x5 Bent BB Rows 70lbs
Pull ups 5,3 - had to rush due to gym closing.
 

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23 Sept 2011

3x5 Squats 140lbs (5,5,4)
3x5 Bench Press 90lbs (5,5,4)
1x5 Deadlift 150lbs
2x8 Assisted Dips

Failed squats and BP on last set, did on lighter weights with more reps before heading off.

24 Sept 2011

Weigh in today: 115-116lbs (+0.6lbs). Need to up my intake of food now, guess I haven't been really sticking to 2 hours per meal at home (can't help it at school that my breaks are like 4 hours inbetween).
 

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26 Sept 2011

3x5 Squats 140lbs
3x5 Military Press (70 5,4 65 4)
3x5 Bent BB Rows 75lbs
2 sets Chin-ups (5,3) considering my increase in weight mantaining this is okay.

A good workout overall but I can't help but feel my form for BB Rows get thrown out the window when I increase the weight yet on the previous weight I'm doing perfectly fine. Will keep at 75lbs for rows until I nail the form at 75lbs
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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28 Sept 2011

3x5 Bench Press 90lbs (still a little shaky)
3x5 Squats 145lbs
Deadlift 1x5 155lbs

Switched to alternate grip for deadlifts because the bar was starting to slip out od my right hand at 150lbs. Will repeat 90lbs for Bench Presses until I get comfortable with it.
 

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3 Oct 2011

3x5 Squats 145lbs
3x5 Bench Press 90 (easy)
1x5 Deadlift 160lbs
2x8 Assisted Dips

Just switched from mass gainer to ON 100% Gold Whey today. I felt like puking after taking half the shake in, I don't know what it might be but I suspect I might be allergic to too much whey at one sitting. Nevertheless I managed to hold it in. Let's see how this turns out.
 

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5 October 2011

3x5 Squats 145lbs
3x5 Military Press 65lbs
3x5 Bent BB Rows 70lbs

Gym was crowded like hell today and weights were basically taken up everywhere. No choice but had to mantain or drop some of my load. Had to rush through this workout as well since the gym was closing an hour after I entered.
 

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7 Oct 2011

3x5 Squats 150lbs
3x5 Bench Press 95/90lbs (5,4 95lbs 4 90lbs)
1x5 Deadlift 165lbs
 

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10 Oct 2011

3x5 Squats 150lbs
3x5 Military Press 70lbs
3x5 Bent Rows 75lbs
2x5 Chin ups
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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