"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Konada's Workout Journal
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Konada
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Started back on squats again, not sure whether its the right thing to do, my left knee feels funny.
3x5 Standing Military Press (2x5 60lbs, failed on 2nd set 3rd rep. Last set: 55lbs failed on 4th rep)
3x5 Bent Barbell Rows (2x5 90lbs, dropped to 85lbs on last set to mantain form)
3x5 Squats 95lbs
Been a long time since I did squats, gonna start upping squat weight next week.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Konada
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Week 2 (After starting SS)
Back: http://img687.imageshack.us/img687/2231/marcus048.jpg
Don't have a front pic cos I was still insecure back then lol.
Week 7
Back: http://img191.imageshack.us/img191/9879/marcus052.jpg
Front: http://img703.imageshack.us/img703/2480/marcus062.jpg
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Bad workout today, probably didn't get enough food before workout sincr it was in the wee hours of the morning.
3x5 Squats 110lbs
3x5 Standing Military Press 60lbs (failed last set 4th rep)
3x5 Bent BB Rows 85lbs
Will leave my workouts to after school when I am able to get enough energy 1 hour preworkout from now on.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Konada
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Ugh today was a so-so workout. I just HAD to check my phone just before I was about to bench. My chemistry teacher decided to give me a 0 for skipping a lecture which was a total waste of time, I could plan my time better without it. Needless to say I was taken out of the zone for my bench though I didn't really care about getting 0. (Note to self: Use a real stopwatch instead of the phone timer instead.)
3x5 Bench Press 85lbs (Could have done 90lbs if I was focused enough.)
2x5 Squats 120lbs
1x5 Deadlifts 140lbs
After 2nd set of squats I had this really weird feeling just directly below my left knee. As if something was loose in there. Definitely could've finished the last set but didn't want to risk messing up my knee again. Overall still good, increased loads on DLs and squats.
Any idea what feeling it might be? I make sure my knees don't drift forward too much during the squat and still keep my knees shoved out when ascending. Back locked, no movement of barbell.
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I witnessed typical chump behavior at the gym today. HB7 walks in, bam, 3 guys start chatting her up, showing her how to use the weight machines (lol). Enough about that, squats are getting tougher day by day but still as awesome.
3x5 Squats 120lbs (nailed it)
3x5 Standing Military Press 60lbs
3x5 Bent BB Rows 90lbs
Haven't been doing standing militay pressss and bent rows for quite some time now due to coincidentally missing em on my busy days. Will rack up the weight next week for rows and presses.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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2x5 Squats 125lbs 1x5 Squats 120lbs (Felt I couldn't take the last 125lbs set to finish so I lowered the weight)
2x5 Standing Military Press 65lbs - more on this later
3x5 Bent BB Rows 95lbs
Okay so the only thing I see that's not progressing is my Military Presses. Today I tried doing 65lbs sets but on the last set I failed on the 1st rep. 60lbs is easy for me but 65lbs is too hard.
So I have a question here, should I increase intensity of 60lbs military presses (i.e reduce rest time) or should I juat reset the weight and climb back up again?
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Damn my dad passed a flu-bug to me. Now I feel jelly all over (congested nose, sore throat, coughing) , no choice but to lie in bed and pass on my workout. I want to push this through so bad but I'm afraid I might end up worse than now.
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3x5 Squats 120lbs
3x5 Standing Military Press 55lbs (failed last rep)
3x5 Bent BB Rows 85lbs
Decided to take things slow first since I just recovered fron flu. Was focusing on form on rows today and I decreased resting time for presses to 2 minutes. Will nail presses with 2 mins breaks inbetween sets before increasing the weight again.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.