"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Knowing how far to go

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Okay, i need a Sure-Fire way of knowing whether or not a girl likes me. Not any girl in particular, just girls i meet at parties/social events. Stuff like that. One technique or move i can use to find out.

I'm scared to overdo my kino and scare chicks off, so i like to know if theres a connection before i really get into things.

I need something that works for special cases too. Like for example i was at a party on the weekend, and i was getting close to this one girl. Pretty hardcore kino. And then her friend showed up and the girl just kinda went away from me. Then at the end of the night i asked the girl for a kiss, and she said no because her friend liked me (her friend was watching us). I know for a fact that her friend liked me, even before the party. Anyways, in this case, i wasnt sure at all if she liked me or not. Because she did pay alot of attention to me until her friend showed up, then she payed more attention to the other guys.

So how do I know?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The Shocker

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Why the hell did you ask for the kiss?
 

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The Shocker said:
Why the hell did you ask for the kiss?
It was a game. Her last name was Djini so i joked around with her asking if she could grant me 3 wishes. My last wish was for a kiss... i thought it was a classic DJ move...
 

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The Shocker said:
Why the hell did you ask for the kiss?
It was a game. Her last name was Djini so i joked around with her asking if she could grant me 3 wishes. My last wish was for a kiss... i thought it was a classic DJ move...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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saber101 said:
It was a game. Her last name was Djini so i joked around with her asking if she could grant me 3 wishes. My last wish was for a kiss... i thought it was a classic DJ move...

I haven't heard of a situationg where asking for a kiss is considerred dj, your situation does not count. and she also did not kiss you because "her friend likes you"? <--- lame excuse
 

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By asking for a kiss did you actually go "can you kiss me?" or did you tell her to kiss you like Style does his "Kiss goodbye" and taps his cheek thing?
 

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Plec07 said:
By asking for a kiss did you actually go "can you kiss me?" or did you tell her to kiss you like Style does his "Kiss goodbye" and taps his cheek thing?
When i was leaving i said "i know what i want for my third wish, a kiss, since i didnt get one during the game" (we had just finished playing spin the bottle). Thats exactly what i said

Plus, the friend liking me wasnt an excuse. Her friends told me she did even before i went to the party (before i met the girl i asked for a kiss from)

Maybe she didnt want to kiss me, but she was still telling the truth. This is why i need an effective way of telling whether or not a chick likes u
 

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I didn't really get what you were saying in the above posts, but what you said to the chick wasn't THAT bad, at least not as bad as saying "can I kiss you?"

There are better ways to do it though. Learn from the experience.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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At parties and social events, if a girl is interested she will look and you and smile, making subtle gestures that are REALLY hard to read. Remember that most girls don't just like you immediatly, rather they begin to like you after talking to you. And since it is a party/social event the level of kino should be clear - close dancing, hands, shoulders. She will let you know
 
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