"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Kissing a woman friend on the forehead?

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I would like to know whats your opinion on this? Say you see a woman friend of yours but nothing much really happened. You see her one day and just chit chat for a minute and two and say bye and kiss her on the forehead.

i heard that women would literally melt if a guy who she is attracted to did that to her. Is this true? What if she only sees him as a friend? Would you say omg what just happened why he did that or would she just take it as a friendly gesture?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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warrior1 said:
i heard that women would literally melt if a guy who she is attracted to did that to her. Is this true? ?
No. She will most likely go "WTF didn't he go for it and kiss me, what am I ugly? is he gay?"

warrior1 said:
What if she only sees him as a friend? Would you say omg what just happened why he did that or would she just take it as a friendly gesture?
A friend you will be and a friend she will see.
 

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nothing says I don't have balls like kissing a woman on the forehead.

you might as well kiss her on the hand.. no seriously don't do that it was a joke
 

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lol at kisssing her on the hand. That is way overdoing it. Even i know.
 

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backbreaker said:
nothing says I don't have balls like kissing a woman on the forehead.

you might as well kiss her on the hand.. no seriously don't do that it was a joke
Yeah, it seems a bit patronizing too. Might as well pat her on the head and say "good girl."
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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HAHAHAHA

You could give her a kiss on the forehead, then on the cheek, then on the neck etc etc.... but don't just kiss the forehead that's for chicks to do
 

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warrior1 said:
I would like to know whats your opinion on this? Say you see a woman friend of yours but nothing much really happened. You see her one day and just chit chat for a minute and two and say bye and kiss her on the forehead.

i heard that women would literally melt if a guy who she is attracted to did that to her. Is this true? What if she only sees him as a friend? Would you say omg what just happened why he did that or would she just take it as a friendly gesture?

Actually, the chicks I've dated seem to melt when I do it. They see it as a protective thing, at least, that's what they've said. It's the point where there's the cuddling, her hand is on your chest, and you do the forehead kiss. They've SAID it was manly (and yeah, I know, some women say the total opposite of what they actually do, but in this case, by their reactions at the time, I have no reason to doubt it), without my asking. Of course, the forehead kiss is not the only kiss to go to (unless it's a first date), and I, depending on the situation, usually go for more if she and I have been dating for a while.
 

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Mental said:
Actually, the chicks I've dated seem to melt when I do it. ...
Would you do it to a woman you who you weren't dating?
 

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kissing a woman you're just friends with seems kinda edgy
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The only time it seems appropriate is when you're cuddling and her head is on your chest, as stated above.
 

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think about it like tihs...

does a woman kissing you on the forehead make your **** hard?

Or shoving her tougne down your throat?

I mean some of these questions ar ejust stupid. why not just send her a note that says "kiss"
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Would you do it to a woman you who you weren't dating?
Depends on the woman. Lol.

Actually, it depends also by wat you define as "dating." It also depends on if there's a level of chemistry.
 

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Mental said:
Depends on the woman. Lol.

Actually, it depends also by wat you define as "dating." It also depends on if there's a level of chemistry.
She's just a "friend" (really). No sarging, just an acquaintance.
 

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try this instead: kiss your two fingers. Touches those two fingers on her lips.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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