Im currently in a relationship, just at the 2 week mark, i know nothing too serious as of yet. Long story short, went to the bar and ran some game, and made out with another girl on the dance floor and got her number. Is that cheating, or just innocent fun, its not like I took that girl home.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Kissed another girl?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
SmoothTalker
Master Don Juan
A good rule of thumb is, switch roles. If your girl went to a bar, flirted with some guy, then made out with him, are you cool with it as long as she didn't go home with him?
Personally unless it was specifically an open relationship, I would not be okay with my girl doing that. Similarly I return the favour and either control my urges or break up with her so that I'm free to do as I please.
Basically, don't be a selfish douche. If she doesn't know about this don't tell her now, but if you care about this girl, don't do it again.
Personally unless it was specifically an open relationship, I would not be okay with my girl doing that. Similarly I return the favour and either control my urges or break up with her so that I'm free to do as I please.
Basically, don't be a selfish douche. If she doesn't know about this don't tell her now, but if you care about this girl, don't do it again.
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What makes you thing you're "in relationship" with a woman you have been seeing only for two weeks. Unless you're committed to her or her committed to you, this is not cheating at all. It is obvious that you're not committed to her... and there is no sign that she is committed to you either since you've only being involved for two weeks. If she is committed to you at this stage, she is a fool, and treat her as such. If you're committed to her at this stage, you're equally a fool and expect to be treated as such.
You are simply exploring. No commitment, you're free to do what pleases you.
You are simply exploring. No commitment, you're free to do what pleases you.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
My friend put it the best i think so far, I realized that making out doesnt mean much to me, its something I typically do with girls, either at the club whom i dance with or the first date in etc... its easy for me, I enjoy it, they enjoy it, etc... When I made out with that girl on the dance floor, I did it because it felt natural, and its what I do when I go to bars.
Obviously with the help of alcohol I wasnt thinking as clearly, and just did what I felt right, not thinking of how bad she'd feel. (Im sounding too AFC...F***)
Point is I just went by my natural instincts.
Obviously with the help of alcohol I wasnt thinking as clearly, and just did what I felt right, not thinking of how bad she'd feel. (Im sounding too AFC...F***)
Point is I just went by my natural instincts.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
have you DATED for 2 weeks or are you an official couple for 2 weeks[having dated for 6 months}? BIG difference. But I wouldn't tell her-she won't ever tell you about kissing a guy
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Wow @ some of the advice in this thread.
tappa
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@SmoothTalker.. A good rule of thumb is, switch roles. If your girl went to a bar, flirted with some guy, then made out with him, are you cool with it as long as she didn't go home with him? <== this!!
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