Im currently in a relationship, just at the 2 week mark, i know nothing too serious as of yet. Long story short, went to the bar and ran some game, and made out with another girl on the dance floor and got her number. Is that cheating, or just innocent fun, its not like I took that girl home.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Kissed another girl?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
SmoothTalker
Master Don Juan
A good rule of thumb is, switch roles. If your girl went to a bar, flirted with some guy, then made out with him, are you cool with it as long as she didn't go home with him?
Personally unless it was specifically an open relationship, I would not be okay with my girl doing that. Similarly I return the favour and either control my urges or break up with her so that I'm free to do as I please.
Basically, don't be a selfish douche. If she doesn't know about this don't tell her now, but if you care about this girl, don't do it again.
Personally unless it was specifically an open relationship, I would not be okay with my girl doing that. Similarly I return the favour and either control my urges or break up with her so that I'm free to do as I please.
Basically, don't be a selfish douche. If she doesn't know about this don't tell her now, but if you care about this girl, don't do it again.
amoka
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What makes you thing you're "in relationship" with a woman you have been seeing only for two weeks. Unless you're committed to her or her committed to you, this is not cheating at all. It is obvious that you're not committed to her... and there is no sign that she is committed to you either since you've only being involved for two weeks. If she is committed to you at this stage, she is a fool, and treat her as such. If you're committed to her at this stage, you're equally a fool and expect to be treated as such.
You are simply exploring. No commitment, you're free to do what pleases you.
You are simply exploring. No commitment, you're free to do what pleases you.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
My friend put it the best i think so far, I realized that making out doesnt mean much to me, its something I typically do with girls, either at the club whom i dance with or the first date in etc... its easy for me, I enjoy it, they enjoy it, etc... When I made out with that girl on the dance floor, I did it because it felt natural, and its what I do when I go to bars.
Obviously with the help of alcohol I wasnt thinking as clearly, and just did what I felt right, not thinking of how bad she'd feel. (Im sounding too AFC...F***)
Point is I just went by my natural instincts.
Obviously with the help of alcohol I wasnt thinking as clearly, and just did what I felt right, not thinking of how bad she'd feel. (Im sounding too AFC...F***)
Point is I just went by my natural instincts.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
have you DATED for 2 weeks or are you an official couple for 2 weeks[having dated for 6 months}? BIG difference. But I wouldn't tell her-she won't ever tell you about kissing a guy
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Project Fox
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Wow @ some of the advice in this thread.
tappa
Don Juan
@SmoothTalker.. A good rule of thumb is, switch roles. If your girl went to a bar, flirted with some guy, then made out with him, are you cool with it as long as she didn't go home with him? <== this!!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.